They say these things always happen in "three's".
And I have always found that to be true. Even of this situation.
I have a friend who's grandmother and father are both elderly and both live alone, and get sick quite often. My friend is always "on edge" because she doesnt know what will happen with either one of them from day to day. Just this past week, both of them were put into the hospital with infections.
They went home after a couple of days, but still.....my friend is stressed. Both of these people live on opposite ends of the area we live, so she has anywhere from an hour to three hour drive to get to them.
They are stubborn people too....refuse to sell their homes and live in a nice comfy retirement residence where there are oncall nurses.
So, she does what she can do, and thats about it.
My granny was just as stubborn. I keep kicking myself because I never spent enough time with her when she was failing. Sometimes I want to run myself into a brick wall because I was so useless.
Thats why I tell you to keep giving as many hugs as you can. I dont want you feeling guilty because you didnt give all the hugs you were able.
Keep giving those hugs, they make things a bit better.....thats not exactly what I mean, but Im going a little "stupid" because Im not coming up with the right words. I get this way when I think about my granny, sorry.
Hope this makes sense and doesnt offend.