09-13-2013, 03:03 AM
Bowyn Aerrow Wrote:So what is this, attempted manslaughter?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Criminal_tr...ion_of_HIV
This is reckless - this ain't love, this is something far removed from love.
I just had a similar discussion with my roommate who is putting out ads saying he is drug and disease free. Such a lie can be a death sentence, and judges are cracking down on the spread of HIV by HIV+ people who know they are positive and still have sex with a negative person without telling that negative person their status.
Regardless of his reasons, this HIV status lie is way to big to let slide.
I can understand lying about a loved one who committed suicide, such a death is not something easy to talk about.
I have no idea what is going through his brain. This risk he posses to you is a serious risk and is not an act of love. He is purposefully having sex with you without protection when he knows he is positive and you are negative.
I strongly suggest you get the RNA test done for HIV. Go to your doctor and have them specifically test for the HIV genetic material (RNA is to viruses what DNA is to you). The antibodies test is not wholly accurate and only tests for the antibodies that may be present if you are infected. However low viral load means low antibodies and there may not be enough to get an accurate test from in your system.
I can understand why you didn't haul ass. I get that, but honestly, if he has lied about his status and is willing to infect you what else is he willing to do to you?
I fear that this is the type of lie you should not have to live with. I'm sorry. I know you have feelings for him, but apparently he doesn't have the proper feelings for you - real love does not place the one you love in such a terrible place with such incredibly horrible risks.
I really have to sleep SOON (I have been getting up at 4:30 am to make it to school and work on homework before class/ to get away from my husband and see him as little as possible), but I HAD to respond to your post; cause God can have a SOCK sense if humor. When we used the over-the -counter HIV tests, I got a false-positive. I am going to be honest with you: I came very close to killing myself that day.
Ray talked me into going into the doctor and getting on Atriple (an anti-viral) like he is taking. When I got there they insisted that I have an RNA test (along with two other kinds of tests for "mutations". Four days later I went back and found out I am negetive. I was so ecstatic that when they asked if I wanted to press charger against Ray, I said "no".
I honestly cannot say now if I think I should have pressed charger or not. I worry about him being let loose on an unsuspecting world..
"I know you dont care for me and my opinions..."
Mr. Tinkles,
Though we don't always agree, please don't believe that I have animosity or animus towards you. I have read many, many posts you have written that I thought were written with good intent and a loving soul. You have a good heart.
Beau