I have had a lot of sexual experiences in my life, mostly with Women. Many of those Women in the past went on to be my girlfriends.
I never did one-night stands. Usually we would wait on sex while getting to know each other.
I would want the same with a man: Perhaps I could ask him out to dinner at a French restaurant. Have some wine, talk. Laugh and get to know each other.
I would cook for him. We could exchange emails during the week for awhile and meet up for long walks. I would love to buy him flowers.
Sex/affection would not come right away. Although, affection might be OK, hugging, kissing lightly, cuddling. That is sweet.
Trust would need to be built before I enjoyed anything in his bed.
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I'm not sure the point of this post.
If you're in a monogamous relationship (according to your status) going on dates with a guy is cheating and I can't recommend it.
fooling around with someone else (aslong as its within boundaries you have agreed to with your partner) is a completly different matter
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Well, I for one have never been interested in one night stands...(not that I've been given the opportunity, but still)...called me weird cause of my short age, but I dream about just waking up cuddled next to a guy I know and I care for.
I like the idea of following the whole process you mentioned...well...minus the flowers probably..
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I've been in a ONE - one night stand.
And it's overrated. I don't get how some gay men can
have so many of them, and some even one right after
the other.
I don't understand it, I would rather not have sex than to
have sex with someone who just looks at you as someone
to 'get-off' with.
It's definitely different from having sex [making love?] with
someone who you've developed feelings for and have a
strong emotional connection with.
I'd rather just have the feelings and connection than sex.
Sex is just a small part of the bigger picture.
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I've been propossed to one night stands before, even by a guy I was really attracted to, but maybe i'm built differently, because instead of getting excited it turns me off.
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Different strokes for different folks,
Some people I know only go to the movies when they are on a date because they think that its romantic to be cuddled up in the dark next to someone you like and that its weird to go with a friend or by yourself.
I don't think its strange to go to the movies with friends or by myself, I don't think its strange to have sex without intimacy.
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Hi matty,
Thats just what im looking for, though last night for example i put an ad on a gay dating channel, i made it clear i was looking for something more than "fun" though still i get the same questions "how bigs your (ahem)" ? and "wot u into" to which i reply "scrabble" or one time "tetris"
I know guys out there want the same as me, well i was with one for some time, its just there hard to find, i wish i had more confidence to approach guys who seem to show an interest and not just rely on social media,
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I hate doing one-night stands and using adam4adam/manhunt, but that's the only way I ever get sex. Ideally, I'd like to get to know a guy just a little bit before, to see if there's chemistry first. But like others have said, most convos don't go beyond "ur hawt" on those websites. I wanna talk and flirt with guys at bars, but when I do go I never meet guys who are cool and down-to-earth and approachable; it's usually the Abercrombie & Fitch crowd or guys old enough to be my dad (no offense to older gay men here). Or maybe I'm to shy to notice anything different. *shrugs*
It's very frustrating. But once in a while I get lucky - I met a guy on manhunt last year, and we met at Starbucks the following day and talked it up first - we decided to meet the following night at my place and we had a pretty hot time. So it gives me hope that there are other guys not looking to jump in right away but willing to see if there's chemistry first.
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