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[new44]

hi all just joined bit nervous about it all cant wait to get into bed with a guy last time 8years ago very shy and drunk
want to do it again worried about when and how "dont go to gay bars" also stds

[princealbertofb]

I take it you enjoyed having the relationship or the sex or else you wouldn't be looking for some more. What exactly are you nervous about? Are you afraid of being found out by someone or are you just so shy that you wonder whether you will be able to perform? I think you need to get talking and then maybe find a little confidence. After all it's just a very natural act.

[fjp999]

I think being nervous is natural and all part of the fun. Ya never know what you are gonna find in a guy.

Cant help with there where to look part. One never knows when you will meet Mr. Right.

Good luck and welcome to the site.

[new44]

problem is never kissed only had anul once (drunk) worried about aids (can u get it through oral sex? nervous about pain with anul looking stupid

[spotysocks]

Hey ,dont be so worried. It is not an attractive quality. Std's you can control by first asking the guy if he has been tested- it is straightforward like this yes ,but it matters how you ask. Also use condom and safer sex.

I wouldn't recommend cruising grounds ,try the internet to find an encounter to experiment and have a chat with the guy before that and prepare emotionally or any other way for your second experience. mile:

[spotysocks]

problem is never kissed only had anul once (drunk) worried about aids (can u get it through oral sex? nervous about pain with anul looking stupid

no you cant get the virus through oral sex unless there is an open wound in your mouth or penis and you cant get it through saliva. that is what i know, check out more at Information about services for gay men in London

[wouldlikemuscle]

Welcome new44,

See if there are any GLBT groups in your area who may provide info about getting in touch with local people that are after a similar thing.

Leicester LGBC... http://www.llgbc.com/

[princealbertofb]

problem is never kissed only had anal once (drunk) worried about aids (can u get it through oral sex? nervous about pain with anal looking stupid

Listen, first of all you don't have to have anal sex if you don't want it, and if you do, it doesn't have to hurt... honestly. it's something you can ease into gently and get used to gradually... There are plenty of sites on the Internet that tell you about gay sex and how to go about it. The suggestions normally made are: patience, relaxation, lubrication (and condoms for safer sex) and especially being ready with that particular person. There are plenty of other ways to pleasure a guy otherwise. Incidentally you can "break yourself in" privately in your own home before you embark on anal sex by using toys or objects that could be the size and shape of a penis, but again just make sure they are safe to use. That way the pain ought to be something you can master with proper relaxation and breathing. Think of it like masturbation, it is ok for you to know your pain thresholds and discover how your body copes with a foreign body in it...

Take care,
PA

PS... one post scriptum at least... re-reading your post: don't get drunk, it's a sure way to disaster of some kind... if you're going to enjoy sex at all, you'll want to know what you're feeling.