Boyfriend and ADAM 4 ADAM account I didn't know about

[texascollegeguy]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. Last night he told me he had to go to a last minute event. I thought that it was weird so I opened an ADAM 4 ADAM account and looked to see if I could find him.

I caught him with this same profile and profile name before and he promised me he had deleted it and i searched and it was gone. This time it was the same screen name he told me he deleted before that he was using. There were no pictures on the profile so I thought I would email him to see if I could get some.

I sent him a message and he responded back. He said he was looking to play bare. I went along and asked if he had pics. He said he could email them. I made a fake gmial account and I told him to email them. When I got them sure enough they were pictures of him. One of his ass that I had never seen before and one of his face. He sent the pictures from his normal email (No fake account)

I told him I wanted to meet up. He said he couldn't host but he was in the car and could come meet me. I said okay and he asked me for the address. I then tasked him wtf and wrote our home address.

As I confronted him he told me he wasn't cheating. He said he was checking up on me. He said he thought I had been cheating and he was on their looking for me. When I asked why he was using the account he supposedly deleted he had no response. Also when I asked why he was sending pics of himself from his email account he still insisted he was snooping on me. I asked well if you were snooping on me then why didn't you use fake pics and a fake email and he had no explanation.

He refuses to admit he did anything. Whats worse is he is HIV+ and all he could talk about was bottoming bareback. I also specifically asked if he had HIV before he knew it was me and he said no he was clean. He explained this by saying it was all made up trying to catch me, but I don't have bb sex with stranger and he knows that.

I am just really at a loss. No he is being overly loving and wanting to hug me and kiss and cuddle. Things he would never have done before.

Advice? Thoughts?

[southbiochem]

ehhhhhhh...

he is clearly lying...but that's not even the main subject

knowingly risking others health offering unprotected sex being HIV+?

This guy is unbelivable and bad news as it is..

IMHO he needs to get his head smashed with a hammer

don't let him play you like this, turning things arround and trying to blame you?

No sir, you don't need that, nor him

[Pix]

Leave him. And if I were in your position (which thankfully I've never have) I'd also think of reporting him for what sounds like criminal behavior.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I have been exactly where you are now.

This isn't going to end well.

I'm sorry. but it won't.

My advice is simple. Change your status to Single Gay man and tell him he is free to leave.

[Undreamt]

I am pretty accepting and forgiving on most things; using a hookup app, no concerns there; cheating, well there are some issues but if you really want to make it work you can talk through them.

However ANY talk of an HIV+ person wanting to bareback crosses the line.

Instant cut off never talking to them again.

[Beaux]

I am just really at a loss.

No, honey, your not. You know exactly what's up and it isn't as bad as you think--it is FAR FAR WORSE.
Please trust me when I say that I know EXACTLY what your going through. You need to not only kick his ass to the curb, you also need to REPORT HIM TO YOUR LOCAL HEALTH CENTER IMMEDIATELY. What he is doing is ILLEGAL.

[Merc]

WOW......... Get out of there. He was NOT checking up on you and I think you already know that. You also know that he isn't the best liar around. Sorry that you had to deal with this

[Kenny221]

Leave and report him man....

[Dreamer]

Leave him...


Play a fool,
be prepared to get fooled.


[SIZE="2"]Side note:

For all the people "gasping"
at the notion that someone has lied
about having an STD on one of those whore sites
is an idiot and needs their head examined,
and a slap in the face.


If someone is advertising desires to bareback with complete strangers,
and state on their profile that they are "clean" or "D/D free.. so you be too"...

and the recipient of that message meets up with and goes to town on that ass
they deserve the hand their dealt
for being so fucking retarded!


I agree with enforcing the legal implications
on anyone intentionally placing at risk or infecting people with HIV
without their consent or knowledge,
[B]BUT I also think the same should apply for EVERY STD or any other incurable infectious disease out there!
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[boyskissboys]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. Last night he told me he had to go to a last minute event. I thought that it was weird so I opened an ADAM 4 ADAM account and looked to see if I could find him.

I caught him with this same profile and profile name before and he promised me he had deleted it and i searched and it was gone. This time it was the same screen name he told me he deleted before that he was using. There were no pictures on the profile so I thought I would email him to see if I could get some.

I sent him a message and he responded back. He said he was looking to play bare. I went along and asked if he had pics. He said he could email them. I made a fake gmial account and I told him to email them. When I got them sure enough they were pictures of him. One of his ass that I had never seen before and one of his face. He sent the pictures from his normal email (No fake account)

I told him I wanted to meet up. He said he couldn't host but he was in the car and could come meet me. I said okay and he asked me for the address. I then tasked him wtf and wrote our home address.

As I confronted him he told me he wasn't cheating. He said he was checking up on me. He said he thought I had been cheating and he was on their looking for me. When I asked why he was using the account he supposedly deleted he had no response. Also when I asked why he was sending pics of himself from his email account he still insisted he was snooping on me. I asked well if you were snooping on me then why didn't you use fake pics and a fake email and he had no explanation.

He refuses to admit he did anything. Whats worse is he is HIV+ and all he could talk about was bottoming bareback. I also specifically asked if he had HIV before he knew it was me and he said no he was clean. He explained this by saying it was all made up trying to catch me, but I don't have bb sex with stranger and he knows that.

I am just really at a loss. No he is being overly loving and wanting to hug me and kiss and cuddle. Things he would never have done before.

Advice? Thoughts?

dude you need to report him to the police and show them the messages of him saying he was HIV free when hes NOT dude for real are you going to sit there and not report him and let him do this to other people.

HIV might not kill him but honestly it could kill someone he infects within a year if it mutates the wrong way report him and dont WAIT