Good Evening :3

[Dan1980]

I am glad your enjoying your studying Ryan.

[havikryan]

Hi Ryan and welcome to gayspeak.

Why not ask your question and we'll see what we can come up with.

The good thing about these forums is that you can be sure of getting so many different opinions and angles on your topic. So, ask away and over the following hours and days you'll have more opinions and takes on your scenario than you'll probably know what to do with.

Just keep what works for you.

Bye for now.

well i haven't fully formulated the question yet, like, i know what information i want to know but unsure how to ask it so i get all that information, I'll start with a couple of questions then hopefully it doesn't bother anyone

- at the age of 19 atm, I've never had friends so my social level is very low, would this have impact on getting a relationship? i mean i heard of some liking ''shy'' guys but till, not sure if i would meet someone like that
- is it a big problem or not of having autism? i do not fully understand myself nor my autism so i have no idea how i could potentially explain it to someone.
- is it weird to just look for ''the one'' like i want to look for someone i will always will be with, but whenever i think that i also think ''this is not a fairy tail it won't happen''

thank you to the people who were willing to read and possibly answer the above questions

Don't feel bad, some people may not understand the shortened GS, but not say anything so I need to know that in order to make people feel more welcome and relaxed, jim

hmm ok, i just hope i didn't bother you, also, i just have to ask,, why is it you signed your name with Jim this time instead of James? my apologies if I'm bothering you to much

I am glad your enjoying your studying Ryan.

thanks for the kinds words

[James]

hmm ok, i just hope i didn't bother you, also, i just have to ask,, why is it you signed your name with Jim this time instead of James? my apologies if I'm bothering you to much

never a bother, officially James, but if someone jumps out there with good info it becomes more informal, Jim

[havikryan]

hmm ok, i just hope i didn't bother you, also, i just have to ask,, why is it you signed your name with Jim this time instead of James? my apologies if I'm bothering you to much

never a bother, officially James, but if someone jumps out there with good info it becomes more informal, Jim

oh i see, thanks for clearing that up, am going to sleep now as it's quite late (12:38 in the evening here :O) will answer to all new replies as soon as i wake up again, good night, and so far thanks for all the replies everyone!

[James]

Sleep well, looking forward to your interaction with the forum, Jim

[southbiochem]

Welcome, Ryan!

Good to have a Nederlander here..

I myself have dealt with mild autism, others here can relate to you too..

feel free to ask me or anyone else any questions

mile:

[Dan1980]

Good night Ryan sleep well.

[Eros]

I like this one c: walcomee.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

- at the age of 19 atm, I've never had friends so my social level is very low, would this have impact on getting a relationship? i mean i heard of some liking ''shy'' guys but till, not sure if i would meet someone like that

--> Yes it will have an impact on how many guys you meet, thus reduce your chances of finding 'The one'. however there are guys out there who get into shy guys. I know at least 8 that I have personally been with... Granted 8 men is all I have been with.

- is it a big problem or not of having autism? i do not fully understand myself nor my autism so i have no idea how i could potentially explain it to someone.

Depends - how 'in' your autism are you? Granted there may be some obvious signs/symptoms you can't hide - but how you cope with those, manage those can have a huge impact on how other people see you.




- is it weird to just look for ''the one'' like i want to look for someone i will always will be with, but whenever i think that i also think ''this is not a fairy tail it won't happen''

No its not weird - many guys do this - a lot more start off entering the gay scene with exactly those feelings. Yes, many tire of the game playing and ultimately end up setting their dream aside - however to one degree or another nearly everyone is a hopeless romantic.

Understand fairytale endings are not really going to happen. There is no 'love carries us forever after'. Relationships require work - often of lots of work. It is possible to find 'That guy' who meshes with you and wants to work with you to keep it going for as long as possible.

So yes a LTR even life long relationship is possible. Probable is debatable based on what I have seen of the world. And as society moves away from its past traditions, it appears that the majority have settled on letting relationships slide.

but the bright side for the Gay community, gay marriage is taking hold it is spreading - thus the chances that a relationship will take on more 'ever after' traditional aspects is growing abit.

[Miles]

hey and welcome ryan