Need major bottoming help!

[Pentanone]

Hey guys, I'm new here and was just wondering if anyone has any tips to help me.

I'm a bottom however lately I've been having extreme troubles with relaxation. My boyfriend is on the larger side and a while back I accidentally hurt myself with him and ever since it's been really difficult to relax to let him in. We use tons of lube and we try foreplay but when it gets time to get into position (usually doggystyle) I tense up because I know of what kind of pain I can experience. When I do actually feel like I'm relaxing and he starts to go in its just way too painful to continue and I start to become less sexual and give up. I'm looking for any advice or tips!

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Try laying on your side with him on his side behind you - aka Spooning.

He puts his head at the doorway and you decide how fast, how much because you wiggle back onto him.

You take back the control/power of the situation which should help you to relax.

Further he can lay on his back and you can ride him - you on top....

Again you are taking the control, you decide how fast, how much, etc...

[Pentanone]

Try laying on your side with him on his side behind you - aka Spooning.

He puts his head at the doorway and you decide how fast, how much because you wiggle back onto him.

You take back the control/power of the situation which should help you to relax.

Further he can lay on his back and you can ride him - you on top....

Again you are taking the control, you decide how fast, how much, etc...

The thing is that on the side is a little awkward because he's 6 ft 7 and Im only 5 ft 8 so it doesn't fit all that well that way without squishing me to death haha. I've tried on top before and it hurts because I'm trying to push down on something though I'm completely tight and can't relax.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Being in bed with him like that ^^^ is too hard?

Seriously?

Well if you can't bottom anymore then I strongly suggest you top him. I guess you will need a step ladder for that..... IDK...

[antons87]

I always find the initial penetration easier if I'm in the lead. I usually start in the riding position and I let myself "drop down" on his cock and thereby choose my own tempo. Once my hole has gotten used to the size, I either start riding or let him control the fuckening.