Reasons you're in the closet
12-03-2013, 05:35 AM
Yaaaay, sharing time. So, for those who are still in the closet or those who were closeted for a while but came out eventually, share your story. Tell us why you were or still are in the closet.
In my case, I have 3 reasons why I haven't told anyone about my recent fascination with guys.
1. This a big one. I'm not even sure if what I'm feeling is real. For my whole life, I've loved girls, but once I decided to learn more about the LGBT community, I suddenly wanna look at pictures of guys and gay porn. I've never been interested before. Part of me thinks I've just gotten bored with porn with girls in it because I've seen it all and I want something different. But I'm also starting to notice guys in real life too. There's even a guy at my job who I think is pretty cute and tend to look his way whenever he walks by. But what if over time, I stop thinking this way? What if I actually try doing something with a guy and realize I don't like it? I dunno, but I don't wanna go telling everyone when I might not even be gay or bi.
2. I don't really have a good reason to tell anyone. If I do like guys, do I really need to tell people? If the day came where I fell for a guy and we became a couple, THAT would be a good time to tell everyone that I like guys because, well, I got a boyfriend and I don't wanna hide him. Other than that, I don't have too big of a reason other than getting it off my chest. It's especially pointless considering I'm most likely bisexual. I still do like girls, so if someone assumed I like girls and took me to a strip club or hooked me up with a pretty girl, it's not like I'd be uncomfortable and have a bad time (I don't think). For strictly gay people, I can understand though. To come out as gay just to set the record straight makes sense.
3. I think a lot of people can relate to this one. I'm just plain worried about how my family and friends will react. I'm worried they'll either not accept it or start treating me differently. I'm especially worried with my friends because I know they joke about gay people occasionally and generally don't take them seriously, mainly because they don't think they'll ever have to deal with one. Well, if I'm gay or bi, they have one to deal with. I have a feeling my mom will love me no matter what, I think my brother will be okay with it too, but my dad I have absolutely no idea. The rest of my family on both my mom and dad's side are pretty religious, so I'm not sure what they'd think either. The uncertainty makes me keep to myself.
In my case, I have 3 reasons why I haven't told anyone about my recent fascination with guys.
1. This a big one. I'm not even sure if what I'm feeling is real. For my whole life, I've loved girls, but once I decided to learn more about the LGBT community, I suddenly wanna look at pictures of guys and gay porn. I've never been interested before. Part of me thinks I've just gotten bored with porn with girls in it because I've seen it all and I want something different. But I'm also starting to notice guys in real life too. There's even a guy at my job who I think is pretty cute and tend to look his way whenever he walks by. But what if over time, I stop thinking this way? What if I actually try doing something with a guy and realize I don't like it? I dunno, but I don't wanna go telling everyone when I might not even be gay or bi.
2. I don't really have a good reason to tell anyone. If I do like guys, do I really need to tell people? If the day came where I fell for a guy and we became a couple, THAT would be a good time to tell everyone that I like guys because, well, I got a boyfriend and I don't wanna hide him. Other than that, I don't have too big of a reason other than getting it off my chest. It's especially pointless considering I'm most likely bisexual. I still do like girls, so if someone assumed I like girls and took me to a strip club or hooked me up with a pretty girl, it's not like I'd be uncomfortable and have a bad time (I don't think). For strictly gay people, I can understand though. To come out as gay just to set the record straight makes sense.
3. I think a lot of people can relate to this one. I'm just plain worried about how my family and friends will react. I'm worried they'll either not accept it or start treating me differently. I'm especially worried with my friends because I know they joke about gay people occasionally and generally don't take them seriously, mainly because they don't think they'll ever have to deal with one. Well, if I'm gay or bi, they have one to deal with. I have a feeling my mom will love me no matter what, I think my brother will be okay with it too, but my dad I have absolutely no idea. The rest of my family on both my mom and dad's side are pretty religious, so I'm not sure what they'd think either. The uncertainty makes me keep to myself.
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