12-19-2013, 09:53 PM
When I was a kid my dad wasn't around much, and my mom really pushed us kids to do well in school and go to college. She always talked about how she'd always wanted to go to college and never could, so she really wanted us to go. I heard this story thousands of times.
I went to college.
Last year my mother was still on the subject, "I wish I could go back to school, I wish I could go back to school," Finally I told her if she wanted to go to college so bad why not just go? There are plenty of funds available for people over 40 to go to school, and there was no reason for her not to just do it. I told her I'd help her get started if she was serious about wanting to do it. She said she was.
I got her enrolled in an online school, which is what she wanted. I knew that at first I'd have to help her, she isn't the best with typing and computers and whatnot. However, as the weeks went on I realized something...she couldn't do it. She couldn't type the papers, she couldn't understand the reading, she couldn't comprehend how to google information for assignments, hell she couldn't copy and paste or even open a microsoft word document.
I tried to be patient, I tried to teach her how to do things but she would only get mad if I didn't just do it for her. It turned into me going to her house 3 or 4 days a week to pretty much do her schoolwork. Its been months now. Months, and she wont even try. I know that when I tell her "Hey, Im not going to do this for you, you have to at least try" that shes going to drop out and for the rest of my life I'll be the son who ruined my mother's chance of going back to school because I wouldn't help her. But this crap is just too much at this point. So do i bite my tongue or possibly cut ties completely with my mother over this?
I went to college.
Last year my mother was still on the subject, "I wish I could go back to school, I wish I could go back to school," Finally I told her if she wanted to go to college so bad why not just go? There are plenty of funds available for people over 40 to go to school, and there was no reason for her not to just do it. I told her I'd help her get started if she was serious about wanting to do it. She said she was.
I got her enrolled in an online school, which is what she wanted. I knew that at first I'd have to help her, she isn't the best with typing and computers and whatnot. However, as the weeks went on I realized something...she couldn't do it. She couldn't type the papers, she couldn't understand the reading, she couldn't comprehend how to google information for assignments, hell she couldn't copy and paste or even open a microsoft word document.
I tried to be patient, I tried to teach her how to do things but she would only get mad if I didn't just do it for her. It turned into me going to her house 3 or 4 days a week to pretty much do her schoolwork. Its been months now. Months, and she wont even try. I know that when I tell her "Hey, Im not going to do this for you, you have to at least try" that shes going to drop out and for the rest of my life I'll be the son who ruined my mother's chance of going back to school because I wouldn't help her. But this crap is just too much at this point. So do i bite my tongue or possibly cut ties completely with my mother over this?