Anonymous Wrote:So I met this girl and im falling in love with!! She is so wonderful and all but she has some issues. She wants to be a guy and some other thngs in her life.
This is not a problem for me since im bi and either way her/his personality is what I fell in love with. What im afraid of is ,if she gets a change will it like make him want to explore his new sexuality more and cheat on me .
I think you mayn't fully understand this sex-change situation fully.
You said she wants to be a he... That may not be altogether true. Instead HE is stuck in the body of a she and HE wants to be Himself.
It is a subtle difference which may help to ease your mind that there mayn't be much in the way of 'playing around' to explore what being a He is - mentally and emotionally He is
already a He.
I think that you are going down the same road that many who date Bisexuals go down. Thoughts like:
"
The Bisexual won't be satisfied with just 'me' since they have needs to be with both genders and I are only one gender."
You're bi - how true is that sort of thought?
Gay, bi/straight/trans - no matter what sexual orientation or gender a person is, if they are into monogamy and are with that one special person, they will refrain from cheating.
I suspect that He isn't going to want to test drive the new equipment with many individuals, and if he is in a relationship where he is accepted for himself, that will pretty much trump any urge to test drive on various people - if you know what I mean.
Understand that no matter who you date, no matter what they say, what gender they are, their sexual orientation, there is always a risk of random extra-relationship affairs happening.
Monogamy is NOT a natural state for homo sapiens sapiens. Monogamy isn't special because its easy to do, it is special because we all tend to struggle with being faithful and
wanting to sow wild oats of some kind. Wanting to do a thing and actually doing it is two different situations.
I assure you, if you have faith in your partner and let him know that you have faith in his faithfulness, he will be less prone to sow his wild oats. If you make a big fuss about it and act like his gender-change is a 'good reason' to doubt him, that doubt may actually push him to try it.
Most likely there may be a greater chance that monogamy will be maintained with the first relationship after the change.
Why? Because he is going to be able to share something with you and only you that no one else has ever had. This is a symbol of how devoted and how much love he would have for you, thus it can be a pretty special thing.