Indojojo Wrote:I've been wanting to try anal for the first time. Sometimes I want my ass penetrated and the thought turns me on.
There is actually a difference between the real thing and the thought of it, which is called a fantasy, but you may even feel this thing like a craving in your body.
If you are inexperienced, Charon's advice seems good. Read a book on it.
My advice would be to prepare yourself for this kind of penetration by self exploring a bit. Find a sex toy, condom it, lube it up and see how it feels. It won't feel like the real thing (which should feel much better) but it'll teach you what to do to relax and what it feels like.
If it's unpleasurable, then maybe anal sex is not for you. Some people don't like it or enjoy it.
If you find that it's enjoyable, then you'll need to find the right person to be with you when you finally give yourself to them. The usual precautions of condoms, protection and lube are advised, of course, and we hope that the man will be gentle enough upon insertion. If you enjoy rough sex, then there will be time enough to tell your partner that you want him to be more assertive.
Remember that it is ok to say: No, or that it hurts and to ask them to withdraw. Otherwise, it's rape. Anal sex gets more comfortable once you've tried insertion a few times, giving your body time to adjust to the level of pain. (there may be no pain, if you've prepared yourself, prior to the encounter).
Like most relationships, sex works best when you're both into it. So give each other time and respect... and remember that it can be messy because sex is messy. Be ready to deal with messy, have tissues or towels available, or accept that it's going to be that way, and that you can have a nice relaxing bath or shower (or quick wash) after you've both had fun. Keep it simple, and it ough to work out for the best. Fouled condoms should be tied up with their contents and thrown in the bin. Have several on hand, in case there's a problem with one of them.