He's completely against anal sex, why?

[sheffield]

Does he like to watch anal sex porn? Does he look guys' asses that way? If he hasn't tried anal sex and he thinks it's dirty, maybe you could ask him to use a dildo on you when you're cleaned up, so he could see how it looks like? And maybe when he sees it, he finds it hot... maybe...

[writerbry]

You do seem to love him a lot, so you might just have to accept it. Like everyone else has kinda been saying. People have their likes and dislikes and for a functional relationship, you sometimes have to make sacrifices.

[Anonymous]

I will probably accept it, because I don't want to break up with him, he's very dear to me. I believe we could do without anal, because all other forms of sex with him are just great. If you love someone, you must be willing to make some sacrifices, I guess.

[dfiant1]

Yeah....YEAH and how can a guy every REALLY know they are gay if they never fuck a girl????

I really really really like your way of thinking.

[Elbereth]

Hi Anonymous, I hope you are able to ignore some of the comments about anal sex on here (that it's gross, etc.) by people who don't have much experience with it. I've had a lot of anal sex over the years, mostly in relationships but also dating, etc., and as I guess you know, it can be awesome, a hot, beautiful thing. I don't mean any disrespect to people who have different preferences, but to me anal sex pretty much "is" sex; the rest is foreplay.... so I sympathize with your having a hard time imagining never sharing that with your boyfriend. I suggest you try to be patient. A lot of guys are nervous and have taboos about anal sex, but people do change and open up about things that they're frightened of, eventually. I can't say why your boyfriend in particular is so turned off of it, since it's so personal. But maybe he needs to be educated a bit, and also to feel more trust to be able to talk about it... and eventually explore it. Are you asking him to bottom or top? Or either?

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter for me if he's top or bottom, I offered him both possibilities. He doesn't want either.

[onegin]

I have same opinion with your partner about anal sex. I don't like anal sex. The reasons are same. If I was you, I would respect it. If you respected his decision, he would be happy then. And make sure you don't ask him again.

[Chris]

De gustibus non est disputandum, actually so true. I know a couple, one guy's into anal and another is not. They are together for more than a year and can handle it. If you like it, maybe buy a dildo and ask him if he can, let's say, operates it. You can have pleasure at least being bottom.