boyfriend dont want intercourse

[Ray]

help me..my boyfriend didnt have intercourse with me for 21 months

[Tulloni]

Has he said why he doesn't want intercourse? Has he given any reason or explanation? Have you raised the issue with him and if so how did he respond?

Sorry for all the questions, just trying to get some background. Does he have any health problems at all or illnesses? Also what kind of work does he do? Maybe if he works unsociable hours it might make it difficult especially if he's tired all the time.

There are options available though but I reckon the first step is to talk with him about these things. I know from experience it's not too easy to discuss these things. I had the same problem with my previous partners not being interested in sex - it's annoying to say the least.

There is another possibility which I know you probably don't want to hear. Bear in mind this is only a possibility - I am not suggesting in any way that this is the case, it's only a theory and nothing more - he could be having an affair and getting it from elsewhere. Has he been behaving unusually recently? Like he's being secretive? He could easily have another reason mind you.

If you have no luck talking to him you can always try to get him interested in sex again somehow or if that doesn't work try relationship counselling. But these all depend on him cooperating. If he really loves you though he will try and communicate with you openly and consider these options. Otherwise if you just can't talk to him about this at all and he's not making much of an effort to resolve these issues you may have to consider breaking up with him because that would suggest he's lost interest in the relationship.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

I see you have listed as being in an open gay relationship. Did this lack of sexual intercourse start at the same time, or has it always been an issue?

to the forum btw.

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[Woollyhats]

If you offer more information in your opening posts, we'll be able to help you more...

You need to find the reasons and try to compromise or remedy them. For example, if he isn't having sex because anal sex is extremely painful to him, you could compromise for oral sex if that is okay with you. If he is too sensitive, you can use a numbing spray. If he just never feels like sex he may have a hormonal issue, which is something a doctor might look at.

Are you both in an open relationship with each other? He may have found someone more sexually appealing than you too, so I would consider that as well, since he may be more likely to have sex with you if he can only have it with you.

Two years is a long time, so obviously there's a problem somewhere that you need to find. Good luck.

[Ray]

he does love me..he kisses me he calling me almost everyday..only to say i love u...but if i ask for intercourse it always lead to a fight..he never in the mood always busyy..or too tired...he is busy with bacholar exams now....but we didnt had intercours for like 4 moths...i said 21 because we have intercourse then after 5 moths again..and no sex...peolpe told me to try gay preromones...will it work?? how do i use it?what will it do..because i only have fellings for him...i do spy on him at school...but he doesnt flirt with someone else..so what do i do?

[Ray]

not always een isseu..after 4 months it began as an issue

[southbiochem]

You need to have a sit down with him and ask him..he must have a reason, depression, issues, low sex drive, maybe he's asexual, anything.

it does say a great deal about you and how much you appreciate him that you have endured 21 months..just saying..

if you are willing to deal with that than I assume you guys can talk about pretty much anything..

go for it, ask him, cause I'm afraid only he can tell you why is this