looking for information for my parents.

[hank]

I have been searching for a while for some helpful information for my mom in particular. Regarding having gay children. The things I have seen (mostly from sights that claim to be "ministries") have a blame the patents sentiment. That is the last thing they need right now.

I have read a couple of heart breaking stories about parents that drove away their adult gay children. I don't think I have that to worry about that, my dad is extremely stoic but he seems like he is able to look at me now. My momeven asked me about my first boyfriend, she didn't want details but she wanted to know.

But they still do what they can to avoid the topic most of the time. I understand now that yes I came out, but they have yet to come out as the parents of a gay son. I want something to explain how I feel to my mother, she will explain out to my father. He can't hear it from me. He had trouble hugging me as a teenager.

[LONDONER]

Hope some of these sites (It is "sites" and not "sights") help Hank:

http://www.gayfamilysupport.com/

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...054AARYZGA

http://freegroups.net/guide/advice_for_p...gay_child/

http://bgiok.org.uk/being_gay/parents.html

http://www.bidstrup.com/parents.htm

http://www.ehow.com/info_7894689_resourc...ldren.html

[CellarDweller]

You could always recommend PFLAG to them.

PFLAG = Parents, Family/Friends of Lesbians And Gays.

There are chapters all over, there may be a local chapter near you that they can attend/join.

http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2

Just click on "Find a Chapter" at the top of the page.

[hank]

You could always recommend PFLAG to them.

PFLAG = Parents, Family/Friends of Lesbians And Gays.

There are chapters all over, there may be a local chapter near you that they can attend/join.

http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2

Just click on "Find a Chapter" at the top of the page.

I don't think they would go to a pflag meeting.

[CellarDweller]

You won't know unless you supply them the information. I'm sure they have brochures and such you can get from them to give to your parents.

They may find it a help, to hear from others who have gone though this.

[hank]

You won't know unless you supply them the information. I'm sure they have brochures and such you can get from them to give to your parents.

They may find it a help, to hear from others who have gone though this.

I am pretty sure they wouldn't. They are pretty well known in their church, Catholic church, I think my dad it's most worriedabout his reputation. God I wish I came out when I was a teenager.

Right now I am just a single guy, it's when I find a boyfriend that I am worried aboutbecause then it will be real.

I can't imagine him ever reacting in anger toward me about this but he is quite vocal about his disgust for gay people.

I came out as bisexual abouttwo years ago and he was sitting at a table with me and my mom. He acted as if we had said nothing. I told my mom I was gayabout a month ago At that point she just figured I was experimenting, or she told herself that too keep the dream she had for me meeting the right woman and having lots of babies. That just wasn't fair to her. I don't know if she talks to my father about things like that. True I was a bit confused by living in denial for so long and actually believed I was bisexual for some time.

[LONDONER]

Hank: Read my thread "Five top deathbed regrets".

[austin]

[SIZE="3"]Sorry to hear about this and i am in the same situation. My parents wants grandchildren and they dont understand its still possible , because i want kids and my partner and i will have kids
My dad disowned me at 17 ,but we have talked some since and things are getting better between us. Anyway i will be watching this thread to get info. also thanks[/SIZE]

[driftwood]

I don't think they would go to a pflag meeting.

It probably doesn't matter whether they actually go. Just knowing about it might help it hit home that you aren't the only one, and they aren't the only ones.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I don't think they would go to a pflag meeting.

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

They are going to have to work through the greif process on their own, there is denial, bargaining, anger, depression to go through before acceptance.

It is a process that varies in length of time depending on the individual, and regardless of their personal belief system which god they worship, which political party they vote for, and all of these other factors they will have to go through the process.

Look you didn't choose to be gay.

They however did choose to follow whatever religion they follow, to be whatever political party they are, to believe those lies and half truths about what being human is about that they choose to cling to and believe as fact.

They also will choose to listen or ignore any information that out there.

I believe I have told you of gay affirming churches. If they need a religious figure to deal with, then find one of those churches. http://www.gaychurch.org/find_a_church/