Yes, something similar happened to me once. He was not an athlete or anything but somehow he couldn't touch me without hurting me, I can't really explain it. I didn't like it AT ALL and I never saw him again.
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Oh yeah, me too!! Imagine that you were me, I'm 5'3" and maybe 110 pounds at most. Plus, I kinda love bigger lovers. This one guy was over six feet and about 220 and a former fighter. Really. He always told me how I was lovable and he couldn't get enough of me -- but he would frequently almost fuck me to death. One time I had to go to the doctor (very embarrassing!) to be checked out in the most private areas, and he left me limping several times. In spite of all of that, I am not complaining. He and I had a real thing for each other despite his inability to be more gentle, and I missed him for the longest time when we broke up. In my opinion: there's worse things in a bf than being loved a bit too much.
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I've been in the other position before, I've accidentally bruised and even hurt before just getting carried away with passion.
I had the same reaction I was horrified to see bruises I had caused.
It's all about calling attention to it, if you bring it to his attention it will become something he pays attention to, and that should take care of the problem.
Richard
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I've studied karate since I was 6 years old and have a 1st degree black belt. I also play hockey (goalie) which is a bit of a rough sport. However, I don't typically go around bruising or crushing people.
Karate, the way I was taught, is first and foremost a discipline. It's about focus and control. Your BF might benefit from talking this situation over with his sensei or with a practitioner of higher rank and greater experience. It's obviously purely unintentional on his part, but he can learn to rein it in.
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This is actually very cute, but a bit concerning. I guess, point it out. Keep pointing out and just be aware. Or, why don't you build up your strength?
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