Just starting out

[ChadCoxRox]

I'm sorry I didn't mean to be cryptic or confusing. Yes, talk to others about the situation as far as what I described is the implied reason for concern...the differences in expectations inferred by your post. And if your friends cannot intelligently engage in a real chat in this regard then you need to go elsewhere. LGBT support group, community counselor, etc. Certainly here.

What exactly are your expectations and hopes regarding a very young man who shows all the very clear signs of not being ready to engage in a committed relationship? How realistic are you being? Do you really deserve to have to work this hard for such a relationship or are you really interested in more? Hash it out for yourself to the point you become very clear in your decision on how to proceed and then do that with all sincerity.

[Evan88]

Who am I to judge him for having 50 sexual partners before... but seriously, it's not a good indication that he is for something serious.

You are 31, he is 18, for sure age doesn't matter for some but objectively, it matters in your situation. You have a different goal and plans in life as compared to him. He is still playing, while you..you are ready for something serious. Both of your goals are not meshing well, so most probably it wont work.

You need to talk first, ask him his goals in life. For sure at 18 he still wants to experiment.. And think if both of your goals would complement each other

[driftwood]

You start out stating you are in a "Monogamous Gay Relationship" but it sounds like that's just wishful thinking.

At 18 you can have sudden interest and even faster disinterest.

That transition can happen in the first hour or it can take six weeks. Both being nerds, games, TV shows, music... each is good for some conversation, but it takes more to build a relationship on.

...he probably got a kick of dating a 31 y/o attractive man and now he's ready for the next high...

He's ready to move on. He just isn't experienced in how to end things.

You are 31, he is 18, for sure age doesn't matter for some but objectively, it matters in your situation...He is still playing, while you..you are ready for something serious...

At least, that's what all of us have concluded. You probably need to let him go, and start looking elsewhere.

[Padshach]

I know you've only recently come out, so this might be a big question, but what are you looking for in terms of a relationship? Are you just looking for a bit of fun or do you want something serious?

There is a fair difference in age and there's nothing wrong with that, but you might be looking at things from a different angle. Have a good think about what you want and ask him to be honest about what he wants. If he's had 50 partners at 18 years old, I'd guess he's more into fun right now.