How do you feel about hook ups?

[sum132]

Thanks for all the great replies everyone. Keep them coming! haha

Personally, hook ups with strangers scare the crap out of me and I have already realized that I am looking for love and substance, not sex, so I'm not likely to actually go out and start hooking up like crazy. But I'm frustrated. In my area it seems like that is the only thing people are actually looking to do. My area isn't a very open minded area, so the best ways to meet gay guys are by methods usually associated with hook ups.

What do you guys think about my perception that "everyone is doing it"? I know for a fact that a frightening number of gay guys I know of have at least 10 sexual partners and I suspect that this is a very common thing for gay guys in general. Is my perception just skewed by my own experiences and not true? Or have you all come to the same conclusion? What percentage of gay guys do you believe have had 10 or more sexual partners (assuming were talking about a younger group of people)?

[ChadCoxRox]

If you're taught to live judgmentally (like I was) you must unlearn that mess when it creates barriers to showing mutual respect. So aside from this tangent...

Sex just for sex is not for me but I've had a lot of experiences in the past before my 21 year faithful marriage. The lust and fantasy of sex is wonderful and fun but there are just as many people who do NOT get into hookups as there are who do. I think the strongest tool gay culture can use to influence tolerance and respect is broadening our worldview. The next strongest tool is what Megumi describes as "mind your own business." Spread love.

[Ryocchi]

I'm a 29 y/o virgin, by my own decision, I only want to have sex with one person, that would be when I met the man I would decide to spend the rest of my life with.

That should answer most of your questions.

[Ryocchi]

you're putting sex on a way too high pedestal . it's just sex.

Everyone has their own opinions or values on Sex, to me it shouldn't be treated as sport or something cheap, it is cool that some people can separate sex and emotions great for them! but some people can't and for them it's not just "sex".

[trywait]

who i sleep with is no one's business but mine; so long as we're not sleeping with the same person

[megumidesu]

Everyone has their own opinions or values on Sex, to me it shouldn't be treated as sport or something cheap, it is cool that some people can separate sex and emotions great for them! but some people can't and for them it's not just "sex".

Yeah , but what I'm saying is if your sense of value as a person comes from how much sex you have or don't have , you've made a far too big thing out of sex. A person's sense of value should come from how they treat others and who they are generally as a human being , etc.

[dfiant]

If some random 20 something that is drop dead gorgeous came up to me right now and wanted a root, I'd be in...and if any of you that have abstained say you wouldn't root that stud under those circumstance, you would have to ask yourself why are you lying to yourself.

[dfiant]

who i sleep with is no one's business but mine; so long as we're not sleeping with the same person

Best root I ever had. I hope you don't mind me saying that, but it's true

[megumidesu]

If some random 20 something that is drop dead gorgeous came up to me right now and wanted a root, I'd be in...and if any of you that have abstained say you wouldn't root that stud under those circumstance, you would have to ask yourself why are you lying to yourself.

i can honestly say that i would refuse

[dfiant]

i can honestly say that i would refuse

Even if he was wearing a mankini?