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Hi, I'm new to the forum but can totally relate to what you're going through.
Be honest with her, she won't hate you for being honest and if she does then she's not worth it. Don't let others dictate to you what you do or how you feel, you're the one whose heart is on the line so you must do what feels right for you. Sure long distance relationships can work and there are online relationships that lead to brilliant real life love affairs but you have to be willing to meet up and really make it work. It doesn't sound like she's willing to do that so I think it's best for you to remain friends if she's willing. You deserve to meet someone special, who is willing to meet you half way and be there for you in a proper and fulfilling relationship, not someone who's just looking to flirt with you without the intention of meeting you, that's only going to lead you down the path of a broken heart...
I hope that you figure things out and are able to talk them through with her. You sound like a lovely, genuine lass, she'd be mad to throw away a friendship like that.
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The thing with long distance relationships is that humans evolved in an environment of face to face communication. Not long distance telepresence.
Every word we say, every move we make, every fleeting expression we make is all part of communication. Text just doesn't convey it all. Voice we pick up some, we pic up more with skype... however not all.
Touch is another vastly important thing that all relationships need. Infants bond with their parents by being held. you bond with your friends with casual contact, hugs, cuddles, snuggles - and even sex with your partner solidifies and maintains bonding between you and your partner.
Humans are just physical beings that require physical contact. Intimacy, sex,cuddling, hugs, just laying a hand on the shoulder of your mate, these create tighter bonds between individuals. That impulse to cuddle, snuggle, and try to get closer - a little closer - we can get a little closer.... that impulse is part of the bond making. that need to be just a little closer exists to make you bond.
With this sort of distance, and with you two never really having a chance to actually live together... it just won't last. You two cannot bond and fully satisfy all of the needs.
This isn't to say you two are not being emotionally satisfied... but emotions can only go so far.
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