I find it interesting though that he wants you to wear stalkings and panties. lingerie is quite sexy, but I am not sure how ladies lingerie would look on a guy. But I tend tolike hairy legs and that little patch of hair just below the navel up next to pink lace, I am not so sure that will be sexy to me.
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People are into some weird shit. But regardless of the fetishes, the fact that he's dating and and having sex with another man exclusively is a clear indicator that he's gay. Case closed, as far as I'm concerned, unless there's additional information we're not privy to.
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CCRox Wrote:I'm quoting myself because it occurred to me after-the-fact how your confusion might be caused by an oddity. As I said before, George surprising me with black lace panties would be a great turn on in my mind because of the dick in the panties but I'd be after the mounting of the man puss! So that's as complicated as it needs to get right there. mmmm 
Thats the point im trying to make, he isnt bi because hes never had sex with women and doesnt want to. Youre bi so it wudntbe surprising you like that, but why does my bf if hes not attracted to women.
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hank Wrote:I am very masculine and I am attracted to men that aren't exactly masculine. But I am attracted to men. It's not because less masculine men are closer to women. They aren't. For me, they make me feel more manly. They make me feel needed.
Some guys don't like to bottom. I have never had the oppertunity. So I can't say why. Try talking to him about this. I would listen, being masculine doesn't mean he doesn't care aboutyou.
He said this, that it would make him feel more manly and dominant and thats why he wants me to wear panties. And I shave to keep my body smooth, so panties wont look too bad on me.
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Pix Wrote:I haven't noticed that masculine lesbians are particularly popular. However, pillow princesses and married bisexuals in an unhappy (or at least sexually disappointing) straight marriage tend to prefer them believing they get sex without having to "return the favor." There's a belief--wrong more often than not--that masculine lesbians "don't like to be touched" and therefore the one who specifically looks for masculine lesbians feels she can be spoiled rotten (sexually at least). In the case of the married they also figure such women are much less likely to stalk, that is they feel more comfortable that "it's just sex" rather than a "regular woman" getting all obsessed and smothering and/or that she doesn't have to worry about her husband wanting to get involved and possibly being replaced.
The strange thing is that while sometimes masculine lesbians are expressing a side of themselves, others are actually doing it to declare they only want girly girls and believe their look will drive away the undesirables while attracting that which they want. This alienates many who'd otherwise be attracted to her, however. I also think females tend to be trained in gender roles in relationships more as well so some unconsciously live up to them (any age but especially those 40 and older).
Alot of lesbian women do like masculine women.. there are loads of masc/fem lesbian couples but hardly any masc/fem gay couples.
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I'm a full blown gay guy. I love the "D". I see it as a plus when a guy is smooth. Less hair, more sexy for me. All it is, is a preference. It doesn't mean he likes women as well, and even if he did, it wouldn't exactly mean it correlates from that. Him liking lingerie on a guy is as well a preference or a fetish. If he liked women that much, he wouldn't be committed to you in the first place.
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Charon Wrote:I've often noticed that many gay men do not like the more feminine gay men and that appeal goes down the "swishier" they get. A lot of gay men like men for sex, to play golf with, have a beer with but all that maintains a certain element of heterosexuality. I have yet to hear two gay guys, at the bowling alley, call each other "sister" or "sweetheart" or similar. But you've thrown a curve, he wants you to take on more feminine apparel, but only to a point. You don't say or qualify how "feminine" you are so it's not possible to comment. But I do have a suggestion; Swing it back to what he doesn't seem to want. Be a guy, not a guy with feminine leanings but a guy who has a job, drops by the local for a beer and tells him you're tired of his telling you what to do, how to dress etc. Either he can like you for the real you or he'd best look elsewhere. You're concern does you credit because you're trying to stay the authentic you while he's trying to push you to be something in which you've no interest. To shake him up, get some underwear that (from Koala) that hides his penis and testicles. Tell him you'd like him more if he were the feminine one and left you as the man you are. He's taking advantage of the disparity in your height and, my friend, one of the meanest, dirtiest street fighters, and nicest guys, was your height. All man on the street and all gay in bed; There should be more like him...perhaps that's a role model for you to consider.
Charon
Im a very submissive person and a bit feminine so he's not exactly forcing me. And he just suggested me wearing panties because im not that well endowed :$. He likes to feel dominant and manly when we have sex. Hes not telling me to cross dress outside the bedroom. I dont have much of a concern, its just i find it odd how a gay man would like that.
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Wardo94 Wrote:I'm a full blown gay guy. I love the "D". I see it as a plus when a guy is smooth. Less hair, more sexy for me. All it is, is a preference. It doesn't mean he likes women as well, and even if he did, it wouldn't exactly mean it correlates from that. Him liking lingerie on a guy is as well a preference or a fetish. If he liked women that much, he wouldn't be committed to you in the first place.
I guess.. but i just dont understand why a gay man would be attracted to feminine qualities.
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Look at it like this. The world is a weird place. Logic is there, but it won't always finish the puzzle. That's why stereotypes aren't always true. Not every black guy is a thug. Not every Spanish person is loud and obnoxious. When it comes to generalizing certain things, there will always be a majority and a minority. Most are "this". And sometimes, you'll find some that are "that". Not every straight guy is some huge, macho, douchebag. I've seen and know some straight guys who are more flamboyant than most gay guys. I've met gay guys more "macho" than other straight guys. It happens, and it just comes down to, everybody is different. There will always be someone to break the stereotype of a group of people or things.
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The question for yourself, is if you like any of these qualities about your boyfriend. And more in a sense of, if you feel comfortable with him wanting you to shave or putting on lingerie and stuff like that. There's nothing wrong with saying no to him and you guys can have a talk about it if it happens.
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Is my bf really gay?
