Capricorn
04-21-2014, 03:36 AM
Hello everyone! My name is Shannon and I just happened upon this site via Google search. I am in the military and currently stationed in Hawaii and I gotta say, this place is AMAZING! I have been with my wife for 14 years which is the reason why I sought a forum like this out.
Before my wife and I had ever gotten married I told her that I had been intimate with a couple men throughout the years. At that point, I thought I was exploring new things and that I wasn't gay. A few years ago I told my wife that I had been intimate with a few men while we were together. We've spent the last few years trying to rebuild our marriage and though she has forgiven me, we've decided to stay married but live separately (in the same house). I know, this sounds ridiculous but it really makes sense to us. Our relationship has turned into that of being best friends and not romantic. Even though she has forgiven me, the marriage we once had no longer exists. I have been on a path of self-discovery (without doing anything outside of the marriage) for years but have recently come to the realization that at the very least, I am bi-sexual. My wife is convinced I'm gay...maybe that's because I love to go shoe shopping with her and critique everything we see people wearing.
Anyways, she and I are in a place where we feel like we no longer have to pretend and we are content with how things are. We talk about everything to include my evolution. We know without a shadow of a doubt that we are not getting back together and we are maintaining this arrangement until I get out of the military in about 18 months.
I'm looking to find friendship and advice from others since the only person I have to talk to about how I feel and the my personal changes is my wife. I sincerely hope that people won't pass judgment on me here. I'm hoping to speak with any of you that are willing to lend an ear and help me to learn more about myself.
Thanks for reading my post; blessings!
Shannon
Before my wife and I had ever gotten married I told her that I had been intimate with a couple men throughout the years. At that point, I thought I was exploring new things and that I wasn't gay. A few years ago I told my wife that I had been intimate with a few men while we were together. We've spent the last few years trying to rebuild our marriage and though she has forgiven me, we've decided to stay married but live separately (in the same house). I know, this sounds ridiculous but it really makes sense to us. Our relationship has turned into that of being best friends and not romantic. Even though she has forgiven me, the marriage we once had no longer exists. I have been on a path of self-discovery (without doing anything outside of the marriage) for years but have recently come to the realization that at the very least, I am bi-sexual. My wife is convinced I'm gay...maybe that's because I love to go shoe shopping with her and critique everything we see people wearing.
Anyways, she and I are in a place where we feel like we no longer have to pretend and we are content with how things are. We talk about everything to include my evolution. We know without a shadow of a doubt that we are not getting back together and we are maintaining this arrangement until I get out of the military in about 18 months.
I'm looking to find friendship and advice from others since the only person I have to talk to about how I feel and the my personal changes is my wife. I sincerely hope that people won't pass judgment on me here. I'm hoping to speak with any of you that are willing to lend an ear and help me to learn more about myself.
Thanks for reading my post; blessings!
Shannon
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