My coming out story.

[shane82]

Hello.
I would like to share my coming out story.
In high school I didn't interest girls or boys. I thought that it's normal. My colleagues spoke all time about girls. I thought that it is for show only. My parents were not rich and we don't have any computer and net connection. After high school I studied on University where I meet my wife. We both were shy, and we decided to be couple. After a few years we got married. After next two years our son was born. And at this time I first noticed that I like to look guys. Then I had net connection and watched gay porn movies. After next year I had first sex witch man and I noticed that this is it what I want.
When our son had 5 years old I told to my wife that I'm gay. She told me that she knew from some times. One year earlier I meet my boyfriend.
My wife was cry, but she was/is very supportive. When I told my sister she was angry and told me that I have to tell everything to my parents, brother and sister. They all are very furious. They don't speak with me. Even my wife is shocked.
Now I live with my fantastic and very supportive boyfriend. I decided that if they don't want to contact with me it is their lost. Today I'm very happy. I can spend (as much as I want) time with my son.

[CellarDweller]

I'm sorry that your family doesn't speak to you. Maybe they will change their minds one day. If not, then you need to find a family for yourself.

[Cuddly]

Thanks for sharing!

I'm sorry about your family. It's good that your wife was supportive of you, she must've really loved you. I consider you lucky to have been "straight" for long enough to get a child. Having a child, born out of love between a man and a woman, isn't something alot of gay guys get to experience and I envy you, slightly. My only regret with being gay is that I will never get to have that kind of intimacy... Sure I can adopt or have a surrogate mother, but it's just not quite the same. In my mind atleast.

On the other hand I'm sorry it took you so long to figure out you were gay. It must've been very painful to tell your wife, when you have a son and are married etc. But now you're happy and that's good. I am happy for you and it's great to hear that you are still in touch with your child (and I assume ex-wife), I imagine divorcing for this reason often leads to terrible relationships between mum, child and dad.

I gotta share my coming out story tooooo

[ChadCoxRox]

Hey Cousin! Welcome to the family! We'll LOVE having you over as much as you can get back here!

[shane82]

My wife is happy that I told her I'm gay. It was shock for her, but now she know that she shouldn't has hope for us.
Now I see that I never was straight. I can't understand how can I be so blind. Since I was 5 I heard from priest that gay go to hell and it's very bad think to be gay. My parents always told my that someday I will be very good husband and father. This is the reason I was asexual, I didn't interest woman as my friend. I thought it is normal and they just do it for fun.
I do not regret anything because I have wonderful son and I met my beloved man:-)

[Wolfpack]

Hi Shane82 and welcome to gs
Thanks for sharing your coming out story with us, and I am glad to hear that you have found happiness.

[JWS]

That's a inspirational story and your wife sounds the most amazing woman on the planet. I don't think you should worry about your family It will take a time field of adjustment and may take some time but there will be events in the future that will bring u all closer again.
Right now enjoy your life

[shane82]

Thx all of you for support. I'm really greateful.