Losing Virginity?

[frachas]

How do gay males define "losing" their virginity? Is it merely having had a little bit of hand sex from another guy, or what? I am actually most interested in knowing: do you have to have had anal sex with another guy in order to be considered a non-virgin?

[jogu656]

Depends on your definition of what virginity is, I personally defined my own as engaging in oral which would be a 50% loss and anal another 50% for a total of 100% by the time you do both haha, but everyone is different. How do you define virginity? What to you is considered sex? Whatever you answer that would answer to your question.

[Jake]

If you go with the definition of every gay porn movies in the industry, losing your virginity always refer to having anal sex. Since in the hetero sexual world, for a girl losing one's virginity is to have sexual act with vaginal penetration (because you do realize that if you have anal sex with a girl she's not considered having lost her virginity.)

Loosing virginity (for a girl) is when the hymen has been broken... Yet the hymen can be broken by other physical activities. Many of my teenage students broke their hymen while stretching in my Martial art class.

For a heterosexual guy, losing its virginity to a girl is also related of vaginal penetration. So no surprised that many gays would believe that losing their virginity would also be related to penetration but it's not.

I remember when I was 15 it was all about losing virginity, if you haven't had vaginal intercourse with a girl at that age you were the laughing stock of the whole school... Even by those who apparently had had sex (but didn't.) I always was very silent about my sex life when I was a teen... The fact is that the first time I had full sexual intercourse with a girl I was 14 years old and I never brag about it.

So make your own definition of losing your virginity because honestly, even though I was considered "not a virgin" at 14... There was no passion, no interest, it was just like masturbating in a hole. Real sexual intercourse happened with a dude when I was 17and no there was no anal penetration done. I knew I wasn't a virgin that day because I enjoyed it and so did my partner.

[homobadwolf]

i considered myself not a virgin the first time i had anal sex

[HumbleTangerine]

I stopped seeing myself as a virgin before I actually did anal for the first time. Virginity is associated with inexperience and insecurities. As a virgin, sex was (obviously exciting) but also kind of frightening. I wasn't exactly sure what to do and how to do it. Being naked and intimate with someone the first time is strange and kind of intimidating.

When all of those feelings went away, I just didn't feel like a virgin anymore, even if most people would say I still was for "not having gone all the way yet".

[Xandes]

I agree with HumbleTangerine. In my eyes, it is all about experience.

[Jake]

I agree with HumbleTangerine. In my eyes, it is all about experience.

Really? Then honestly go have a real chat with a sexologist which will give you another vision of what virginity is... There is in fact no state of virginity... A real virgin would be an individual who has never masturbated, never had any thoughts of getting down on someone... Can you apply that to a 12 months baby? NO research has proven that even at that age, even unconsciously babies do touches they private parts and find pleasure in it. So there's truly no virgin state.

Sorry but experience doesn't define virginity... you can be at 30 years old and still have fucked a 100 people and yet be unexperiemented... why? Because experience doesn't come alone it comes in pair? Ever heard people saying that one is a good top or good bottom? What's a good top and what's a good bottom? I'am a highly practiced bottom that can stretch my ass with huge dildo... do you believe that your 6inches (assuming you have one -) will satisfy me if I don't know how to contract and decontract my muscle?

The whole concept of virginity is heterosexual... it doesn't really applies to gays. There I said it... from an heterosexual point of view, all gays are still considered virgin. YES! They are because the whole things about virginity is completely based on vaginal penetration.

[Wolfpack]

You do not need to have anal sex to no longer been as a virgin. As a lot of gay men choose not to engage in this sexual activity, and yet most would not consider themselves virgins. At the end of the day it should not matter, what matters most is that two people engage and enjoy what they want to between themselves. Labels do not need to come into it.

[CellarDweller]

You do not need to have anal sex to no longer been as a virgin. As a lot of gay men choose not to engage in this sexual activity, and yet most would not consider themselves virgins. At the end of the day it should not matter, what matters most is that two people engage and enjoy what they want to between themselves. Labels do not need to come into it.

this is true. I know a few guys who won't have anal, and engage in oral sex, and don't consider themselves virgins.

For me, it was the first time I had oral.

[HumbleTangerine]

Really? Then honestly go have a real chat with a sexologist which will give you another vision of what virginity is... There is in fact no state of virginity... A real virgin would be an individual who has never masturbated, never had any thoughts of getting down on someone... Can you apply that to a 12 months baby? NO research has proven that even at that age, even unconsciously babies do touches they private parts and find pleasure in it. So there's truly no virgin state.

Sorry but experience doesn't define virginity... you can be at 30 years old and still have fucked a 100 people and yet be unexperiemented... why? Because experience doesn't come alone it comes in pair? Ever heard people saying that one is a good top or good bottom? What's a good top and what's a good bottom? I'am a highly practiced bottom that can stretch my ass with huge dildo... do you believe that your 6inches (assuming you have one -) will satisfy me if I don't know how to contract and decontract my muscle?

The whole concept of virginity is heterosexual... it doesn't really applies to gays. There I said it... from an heterosexual point of view, all gays are still considered virgin. YES! They are because the whole things about virginity is completely based on vaginal penetration.

"The term virgin originally only referred to sexually inexperienced women, but has evolved to encompass a range of definitions, as found in traditional, modern, and ethical concepts.[3][5][6][7] Heterosexual individuals may or may not consider loss of virginity to occur only through penile-vaginal penetration,[3][6][8][9] while people of other sexual orientations often include oral sex, anal sex or mutual masturbation in their definitions of losing one's virginity."

From Wikipedia, which may not be the most reliable source in the world, but meh.

The way I see it, the concept of virginity is in itself a common source of angst. People who grow up in excessively moralist households may feel bad upon losing their virginity and a lot of people, regardless of sexuality can experience angst from still being virgins at an age where it's socially frowned upon. I think it's important that we let every individual define for himself/herself whether they're virgins or not. The definition is not set in stone.