Dreamed that I was attracted to women

[Arkansota]

In order for you to understand why this is so upsetting to me, I need you to understand how I came to know the fact that I'm gay.

I went through a very turbulent questioning process. It was very upsetting to me. I felt like I didn't belong in any group and that was the worst part. My anxiety disorder was probably what really caused my questioning process to seriously damage my mental health.

So last night I had a dream that two women were romancing each other and stripping. I could kind of feel myself getting erect in my sleep and that is the worst part. Here's the thing, though- Guys get erect in their sleep regardless of what they're dreaming of.

I've never been able to get erect by looking at anything involving women. Lesbian porn doesn't do anything to me. But in this dream it did. Could the sensation of me getting erect have been part of the dream?

Honestly, this is an extremely sensitive topic to me and I know I shouldn't say this but the thought of me being bi makes me want to kill myself. I'm not biphobic. I just don't want to be sexually attracted to women and if I was I don't know how I would recover from it. I identify so strongly with being gay that I would have to completely reconstruct my identity and that could take years.

This topic came up in my dream because I have OCD that is focused on this topic.

To be fair, though, one of the most common dreams is being sexually aroused by a relative. But that doesn't mean that they are sexually attracted to them. This could be the same thing.

[Arkansota]

This is a question that I really need support with. Please help me.

[Ruru]

[COLOR="Purple"]I spent my entire teenagehood questioning my sexual orientation and such, I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere and I thought that if my parents knew I'd be completely hated for it.
Just like you I spent years questioning it and "testing" it by dating several different people of both genders, the thing is at night I'd still have dreams like that one you have and it made me immediatly think "Oh God no.".

But here's a fun fact, symbolic dreams that come from your unconscious desires will NOT make sense, so the dream you had was pure lust and since most men when young get erect with just about anything when sleeping (morning woods are constant, even stupid dreams get me hard ons so it's ok) then it means nothing, you are still who you are.

Remind yourself, the thought process you have when conscious is what you identify as "correct", don't forget that our unconscious is also remotely linked to our instincts and such, and you know very well men were made to copulate with women in order to breed, so what you had is more than normal.

No you aren't bi, you'd have to like a woman WHEN AWAKE in more ways than one to be able to identify as a bi.

TL;DR -> No you aren't bi, dreams are just dreams unless if they're complete bushwack random, then they become symbolic but that's it.

edit: I have OCD too but to a minor degree, I've had the same question as you and worry. So trust me when I say that it's normal and it will happen more than once. Those dreams DO NOT qualify as sexual orientation guides or some shit like that, they just pop up because your unconscious wants to get laid, and instinct says "vagina was made for it so why not put one or two there". We're intelligent beings therefore when we're awake and conscious, we know what's true to us or not.[/COLOR]

[Wolfpack]

Ok you are building up a lot of anxiety over this, and having a anxiety disorder this normal for you. But as you stated it was just a dream, and men get erect during the night several times no matter what we dream about, so I would not read to much into it. In the real world you are only attracted to men before and after the dream, so I do not believe having a dream will change you sexuality. In time this dream will fade and you will forget about it and feel better. Try not to worry about something when it was just a dream , as when it comes down to it we all can dream some really crazy and weird stuff.

[Ruru]

[COLOR="Purple"]I'mma shoot whatever system made my post suddenly erase itself, anyway to mimic what I said previously.

When asleep your unconscious gives you dreams basic on instinct, instinct says "copulation with women serves to breed, that is a necessity" so it puts women in there.

Only when you are awake you are true to yourself and your needs as your mood/feelings will act out accordingly, so no you are NOT bi.

Btw, it will happen more than once. (Yes I had to suffer the same as you even with the OCD factor in question, despite being in a minor degree, but dreams are dreams and they're based on a side of your head that more often than not won't make sense even if you try to)[/COLOR]

[Pix]

Dreams aren't about logic (the part of the brain that deals with that shuts down to varying degrees while dreaming) and it's possible to have sex in a dream that isn't actually erotic and also have erotic feelings associated with images that aren't sexual.