12-03-2015, 02:26 AM
Reading a thread the other day, a post got stuck with me and after internalizing it for a few days I realized that even though it sounds bad, the statement is true to some extent.
People like me, that for some reason or the other, whatever the circumstances that cause it, have found ourselves alone for a long time, no friends, no partners, having family issues, etc, are focused on ourselves and become self-involved.
It's not usually intentional nor does it obey to a bad personality trait (from what I've seen and read, the ability of empathizing with others and caring for them is still there) but rather it's the default result of being alone. We become selfish by default.
When all we have is our own selves and there is no one else, I suppose it's natural not to know how to focus on someone else later on, or how to function properly on a friendship or a relationship.
It's a bit overwhelming to realize there's yet another flaw that we need to overcome to achieve some level of "normalcy". But, it is what it is.
People like me, that for some reason or the other, whatever the circumstances that cause it, have found ourselves alone for a long time, no friends, no partners, having family issues, etc, are focused on ourselves and become self-involved.
It's not usually intentional nor does it obey to a bad personality trait (from what I've seen and read, the ability of empathizing with others and caring for them is still there) but rather it's the default result of being alone. We become selfish by default.
When all we have is our own selves and there is no one else, I suppose it's natural not to know how to focus on someone else later on, or how to function properly on a friendship or a relationship.
It's a bit overwhelming to realize there's yet another flaw that we need to overcome to achieve some level of "normalcy". But, it is what it is.