Dating a guy that is Disabled

[cftxp]

I have autism myself and though it's considered the "high-functioning" type I do tend to have these quirks as well as a few special needs (mostly on the realm of social anxiety, insecurities, that sort of stuff) that emotionally, would make even a simple non-romantic relationship a difficult thing to build - but it does happen! So yes, I would personally pursue a romantic relationship with someone who happens to be physically or mentally handicap if I believe that they really love me and that I could reciprocate it, it's one of those "love is blind" things with me.

But the reality is that although I say I'd do it, I haven't had the fortunate experience of even being in a romantic relationship before - but I guess I'm way more open-minded about the options I'd choose from than actually choosing. :x

[Kha]

I would if I'm really falling in love with that guy.
Personally I think each of us is perfectly made for another person, then being disable has nothing to do with that when you have already found that one.

[Wolfpack]

Thank you for your honest and open post arty boy

And yes if I was attracted to a guy, his disability would not matter, and I agree with ddd 's statement.

[Edward]

Would I date disabled person? Depends on what kind of disabled.

[artyboy]

Thank you for your honest and open post arty boy

And yes if I was attracted to a guy, his disability would not matter, and I agree with ddd 's statement.

Well like to get debates going and also to get awareness for other disabled people, the more we walk about issues the less scary they become for people.

Disabled people regardless of their disability has a right for a sexual freedom like the rest of human kind.

Anyway where should I take this post now then?

[artyboy]

Why does it feel like people are scared to talk about disabled people?

[Wolfpack]

Sadly someone people are artyboy, the same goes for many things such as being gay. What people do not understand, they either fear, avoid or even act prejudice against

[Tyrion]

Right I'm disabled and have dated quite few guys and my sex life is about the same as any guy my age.

I have a disability that is called becker's muscular dystrophy which is a muscular wasting condition, which means I'm getting weaker year by year and sometimes I have to use a wheelchair. This condition doesn't really stop me, I'm even heading back to work soon after a long period of time away from work.

My question is would you date a disabled person?

Interesting question. I posted something in the past with varied responses.

I'm personally disabled, with a rare birth defect that causes my bones to be brittle and break easily. I'm also in a wheelchair..

While I've had zero dating luck as of now, I still have a fairly positive outlook on it.

Even though I am "disabled", I am a very motivated person who spends NO TIME dwelling on the things I can't too. I think regardless of that, a disability to some is a turn off, but not to everyone.

I think you prove that, as you said you've dated a lot of guys.

For me, I think my biggest problem is location.

[ChadCoxRox]

I'd like to chime in just a little about relations with people who live with disabilities. People with less obvious disabilities can face the same kind of challenges as those with more obvious impairments. The significance of the impediments are not always directly relative to the disabling condition. For instance intellectual disability can be VeRy tricky where someone with more severe impairment might have far less impediment day-to-day while one with less severe impairment can have far more serious impediment. The old nature versus nurture concept comes into play.

In my experience the MAJORITY of ALL people have disabling conditions but do not enjoy the label because it is either "invisible", common sense and environmental development has allowed compensation, or the symptoms (whether visible or not) are just not severe enough to be able to define.

For me personally, I'd date a man with disability OVER a man without if he's got enough common sense to live a peaceful life devoted to here-and-now productive happiness. I would, however, prefer someone whose life would be better with compromise and cooperation than someone who can't let that happen because of pride or personality disorder.

In closing, I've seen some sexy ass men who use technology and some of those chairs are damn sure sexy! I have a friend who customizes vehicles for persons living with disabilities and that technology is AWESOME! Thanks for a nice thread!

[bluefox4000]

I'm disabled and i love reading people responses. I understand why people wouldn't want to. I get it. Flip side. Myself......I was just as weary about dating you "walk-ies" lol. I wanted a relationship. But if people were gonna look at me like a special case.....keep walking. I can do a lot on my own, and if i need your help i ask. It's hard finding someone who can look past my chair.

Mick