06-15-2014, 09:34 PM
My friend moved to another state and he and his boyfriend broke up. Our friendship, which started out as dating, began when he began dating his-now-ex. Now that he's moved away, our friendship is starting to show strain, and I have to let go of these feelings. I don't know how long this friendship will last.
The main problem I'm facing is his ex. He's incredibly attractive, and apologized to me once for being rude to me when we first met. I didn't really accept it and I feel like it's my duty to apologize for the hostility I created and the problems it may have caused. I also feel that his wanting to be friends with me was sincere, and I feel like I should at least try to be friends. And that's the scary part: I have a slight crush on him.
Is this bad? Should I just let this go? I feel it would be completely wrong to date my friend's ex, but if the friendship eventually falls apart, and his ex and I become friends, maybe more than friends, is this wrong in some social code?
(I don't know much about these things, it's rare that I'm presented with the opportunity of dating someone, though I almost never turn down friendship opportunities, especially with other gay/bi men.)
The main problem I'm facing is his ex. He's incredibly attractive, and apologized to me once for being rude to me when we first met. I didn't really accept it and I feel like it's my duty to apologize for the hostility I created and the problems it may have caused. I also feel that his wanting to be friends with me was sincere, and I feel like I should at least try to be friends. And that's the scary part: I have a slight crush on him.
Is this bad? Should I just let this go? I feel it would be completely wrong to date my friend's ex, but if the friendship eventually falls apart, and his ex and I become friends, maybe more than friends, is this wrong in some social code?
(I don't know much about these things, it's rare that I'm presented with the opportunity of dating someone, though I almost never turn down friendship opportunities, especially with other gay/bi men.)