Scared of meeting a guy on a date

[Uneunsae]

Not eating for a week will just make you feel worse. Just eat healthy always.

[artyboy]

Not eating for a week will just make you feel worse. Just eat healthy always.

I was joking I'll eat something lol!

[Uneunsae]

Sorry, I can't always tell when people are joking or sarcastic online. lol

[artyboy]

Sorry, I can't always tell when people are joking or sarcastic online. lol

Well hmmmm you weren't totally wrong

[LJay]

Well, let's put it this way. Go on the date and when you get home, we all agree that you are allowed to post ALL of the groovy details, including any that you would like to make up, and we will be delighted to read them.

Have a good time!

[50Plus]

Confidence in yourself is job # 1. And remember that he is seeing you through his eyes and not your eyes - perspective makes a world of difference.

And what CCRox said makes a lot of sense. I did the same this weekend. Was supposed to be going out on the second date with a real nice guy. I did not have a great day and told him that I was looking horrid. He was the one that talked me in to going out - and am glad I did as it was a wonderful night.

So, look at yourself through his eyes and his filters AND tell him the truth about how you are presently viewing yourself. Nothing bad can come of that.

[Borg69]

More than likely he's going to be so self conscious worrying about his own perceived flaws, hair, zits, clothes, dick size, breath, ... that he's not even going to notice the things you're OCD obsessing over.

You can't know what he's going to think. The very things YOU think are flaws could be the very things he finds hot and endearing about you. Show up, and let him make his own decisions. Don't make them for him. And IF you turn out not to be what he's looking for, that doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.

[Borg69]

I'd like to add that IF he is that shallow, he's not someone you want anyway. Hollywood and porn really gives us unrealistic expectations of ourselves to try and live up to.

[GuyOverThere]

Explain to him that you don't think you look your best right now (this always adds an extra level of security, as you don't feel you have to play up to expectations) .

I very much doubt you're fat and ugly, but it's particularly difficult for gay men in an image-driven culture. Work on your confidence, and you'll be fine.

Good luck!

[Adam]

You're focused on what he's going to think of you. Turn it around and give some thought to what you're going to think of him and whether you're going to like him. It's a two way street. I knew my BF a couple months before our first date, so it wasn't a blind date --- but he was 8 years older and I was convinced that once he realized how inexperienced and immature I was, he would lose interest. It's a miracle that he didn't run screaming what with the way I tried to overcompensate instead of just being myself.
IDK, it's 4am so I may not be making extreme sense --- but just remember, he probably has as much self-doubt as you do. Try to think of it in terms of what you can do to make him feel comfortable. No one ever went wrong by focusing on the other person in a positive way.