Married and Struggling

[Russ]

I just joined and have found some similar threads on the forum. For example, I could basically copy and paste SCTony's original post from below,and use it as mine, with the exception of the age (I'm 46). I am married, but really really struggling with my orientation and same-sex desires. I am finding it more and more difficult to deal with these feelings...it seemed much easier to ignore them in my twenties and thirties. Anyway, I echo the requests for advice and counsel. Thanks very much!

[Iceblink]

Hi Russ. Welcome to GS. I am not sure if this is the thread where you are seeking advice or not, but if it is you might want to expand a little more on your feelings and the struggle you are going through to provide some guidance for the advice you are seeking. Also, where your thread is now placed in the forums, the thread of SCTony does not appear below yours for reference.

[Jake]

Well he won't be able to link the post just yet he has just started posting.

[James]

Hey Russ, welcome to GS, my background, married and divorced twice, have bio kids, so yes many of us here have been down your path, at 64, I have decided which way to go, hang in there, and give more info when you can

[Lambert]

hey sorry to hear ): hopefully the site can help, welcome

[Virge]

usually I'm the smart the smart ass who makes inappropriate comments. This time I won't.

You've found you way into the company of people who are not only fun but care. behind the clown's mask my motto is
Homo sum, humani nihil a me alienum puto. and I live it.
Click it and try to catch me doing otherwise.

You have friends.

[Dan1980]

Hi Russ welcome to GS!

[TwisttheLeaf]

Hi Russ.

If you could make a post where you go into more specifics and details about what you need advice on, it would help us all in sharing our experiences and opinions with you.

Welcome to GS!

[Russ]

Hi all, and thanks for the kind words. I feel less alone with this being able to talk here and share this with someone. As for more details... I've been married since 2010. This is my second marriage, her first. My first marriage ended when that wife cheated on me. I have felt same sex attractions, well, forever I guess, but I have never acted on them (except for porn and a little online). All through my 20s and 30s, I dated tons of women, had lots of fun, got married, and was generally able to ignore/suppress my feelings. In the last two years though, it's has become more and more difficult to ignore them. I feel guilty about all this....I love my wife, but I don't know what to do. I'm not sure how detailed you all want talking sex, but I can share that too. Again, thanks for the mind words. I look forward to more conversation.

[Russ]

I have explored the site a little more. I appreciate all the respect and kindness shown...good work.