New Kid

[Wolfpack]

Hi and welcome to GS

[TwisttheLeaf]

Welcome to the forum, man. I'm glad you found GS. The community here is very welcoming and accepting and I think you'll find some comfort in coming here.

I had a few observations from your writing, I hope you don't mind me adding them.

1) Your parents have made it clear if you come out, that they will stop paying for your university. I advise you to -wait- until you are fully independent of their financial support before you come out. I know this makes things difficult for you socially, but you don't want to lose your ride either, yeah? Schooling is important, especially in the area you're wanting to go into.

2) From your experiences in Europe, you sound like someone who needs a little "connection" to their sexual encounters. One night stands and the like probably aren't going to be well suited for you. I want to reassure you that there are plenty of gay men out there that are looking for relationships, yeah? I know sometimes it can feel as if there aren't, but its an illusion caused by the fact that those out there "trolling for dick" are so -out there- and obvious, yeah? Those looking for relationships are much more subdued and, therefore, harder to see and/or find.

Welcome, again!

[DatKid]

Thanks for the warm welcomes everyone!

[DatKid]

Hey DatKid. I read your words. Thanks for sharing your life... your most profound emotions.
I'd like to be your friend, yes.
I also like neuroscience and psychology... especially psychology.
Reply me here. We are both newcomers so we can’t post private messages yet.

Awesome! Are you into any specific sub fields of psychology?

[MikeW]

Welcome, DatKid, and please don't be a stranger. Don't hesitate to share with us what is going on in your life, your questions, concerns and so on. Lots of us will try to help if we can.

I agree (as is often the case ) with TwistedLeaf. I grew up in the rural midwest, Indiana, long, long ago so understand growing up in the kind of environment you're in. I also understand the confusion and feeling of disconnect even from other gay guys. It is true that most gay guys, and especially young ones, are looking for hook-up sex. It is also true that some of us don't feel totally comfortable with that, wanting more of a 'connection' than just sex.

You've already made the first step in 'coming out' by coming out to yourself. You may need to take your time and see what feels comfortable for you. For sure, don't come out to your parents if you're dependent on them financially and they've indicated you will not be accepted.

Beyond that, if at all possible, I suggest you begin talking with a counselor or someone who can be supportive of your sexuality and the decisions you're now faced with. I don't know what might be available in your area… PFLAG Nashville, perhaps? Some student organization? I don't know but the one thing I advise against at this time is isolating yourself and trying to deal with it all on your own. We're here and hopefully you can find an IRL supportive person or group as well. Thankfully now with the internet, none of us have to struggle with these questions and issues alone.

[East]

Hi DatKid! Welocme to GS

[CellarDweller]

welcome to the forum

[Iceblink]

Welcome to GS datkid. You are in the south, but you're in Nashville so it's not all that bad. You can meet a lot of good people here, but don't let that keep you from meeting some in real life there in Nashville.