Obsessed with a guy

[Sandro]

Hi , I just wanna share something here that really bothers me. First I'm not openly bisexual so I don't have any friends I can share that with so that's why I'm here. I've been having this fantasy of (excuse my French) fucking a man. I'm 21 years old , ripped body and pretty face so I don't really have problems with girls , I'm not shy but Regarding men I just can't ask or hitting on a guy, plus I only like straight guys or guys we don't know there gay which makes it even harder ! So I went on a roulette chat kinda site for gay and there BIM I met a guy ! First he's totally my type (look alike of zayn malik ), not openly gay and live near by ! We showed faces, talked on the site over 2 hours then on Skype over 1 hour. We planned on seeing each other and everything. Next morning I wake up , I see he left me a message just 1 hour ago (I was sleeping in) telling he hadn't slept . So I replied to him something like me too or whatever and then an hour later he's offline and has never log back in ever since (it has been almost 3 days) ! Now I'm fucking obsessed with the guy, I check my skype like every hours to see if he's online . I keep thinking about him , so hot and nice ! It's stupid to say that but I just want him , no other guys ! How can I move on ?! The situation is really pathetic and I'm not usually like that but I just had a huuuggge crush on the man helllllppp. Will he ever talk to me again ? I can't contact him otherwise than Skype (no phone number or Facebook or anything ) help please

[MikeW]

#hotstraightactingbidudeproblems

So he got you all hot and bothered and now you're fixated on some dude you've never met. Chances are he got 'freaked' by his own feelings and has run in the other direction. Just move on. He'll either show up again or not. Nothing you can do about that. In the mean time there are lots of hot straight acting bi dudes looking for exactly the same thing you are in your neck of the woods. You just need to learn how to find them. Oh, and by the way, there are a lot of gay guys you wouldn't know are gay just by looking at them. Check out realjock.com for example.

[Virge]

Did you get what MIkeW wrote? It looked like a joke but it really wasn't.

#hotstraightactingbidudeproblems

Not a day passes in here that at least one guy like you doesn't write out his version of hot straight acting bi dude problems and they're all basically the same. Honest! You can do a search here and find a few hundred guys with your exact problem -- straight acting bi dude problems.

Have you heard of 'Deja Vu?" (I've seen this before)
This is turning into "Deja Feces" (I've see this shit before)

To be honest it all sounds like crush drama from 15 yr olds.

[Sandro]

Thank you for your fast responses. Well actually I chose my status randomly . I have never had any gay experiences, but if I do I will be top , and the guy I was talking to had already had 2 experiences as a bottom . So I don't think he got afraid of his own feelings . I'm usually the straight guy acting bi. It's not like I were living in the middle of Alabama , I live in San Diego, a very gay friendly city . It's just the fact I'm bummed out because I missed a great opportunity with a Gorgeous guy. I went from super excited to super disappointed in 24 hours and I still don't know why he stopped responding ....

[TwisttheLeaf]

Chances are he got 'freaked' by his own feelings and has run in the other direction. Just move on. He'll either show up again or not. Nothing you can do about that.

Mike's right in this. Lots of 'straight acting bi guys' that are looking into exploring that bisexuality do the "wave chasing" behavior. They come up to the edge of the water and stick their toes in, then back up and flirt with the water's edge a while before actually going anywhere near diving in.

In the mean time there are lots of hot straight acting bi dudes looking for exactly the same thing you are in your neck of the woods. You just need to learn how to find them. .....there are a lot of gay guys you wouldn't know are gay just by looking at them.

Looking for men to fool around with is a talent just like looking for women. And they are not particularly interchangeable talents. So, start paying attention to the men around you, man.

Here's a little help to get your "gaydar" or "bidar" started....

[Sandro]

thanks for the video

[Br3ntwhite]

To be honest sounds like the guy is curious like you but afraid of meeting and person and coming to reality of his curiousness, I understand where you come from on wanting someone so bad but with this person it may never happen. I think if you found someone maybe a open gay person at school to experiment you may find that you not think about him. It sounds like that night you found someone that you could fulfill this long wanting fantasy of yours and that's why you are obsessing over this person. So the faster you complete this fantasy of being with a guy the faster you will fix this obsession. Also I know it's hard when first finding out like guys but to make this experience so much better find someone that you can talk to it will be so much easier even easier if you can find someone that has been through this before


Hope this helped
-br3nt

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Got an image (photo) of his face? I got people who are real good at tracking down people for collecting debts... if you know what I mean...

I bet I could locate him. So how much does he owe you, and do you want that with the regular broken knee caps or do you want something more special for him to remember you by? Facial scars, loss of a minor finger... your choice.

[Sandro]

eu brownie arrow i dont know what ur talking about, don't do anything to his flawless face! hahaha. Well thank you for your advice. I'm so happy because he reached out to me again! actually he was offline cause he was with his sister who was visiting him during the weekend and she was always besides him and using his PC. We talked last night again and now we re in touch for good and he gave me his number. I'm so glad seriously, he is hot like hell (green eyes etc..) ! I really can't wait to have my first experience with this guy! boyfriend material.

[LJay]

Hope it woks out. there is a good lesson here: patience. it is important to be able to move on, thugh. Cold feet--or other body parts--are not that uncommon in these situations. Play safe and have fun.