Someone help need sex but.......

[Br3ntwhite]

It has come to the point that I do not know what to do anymore and this is why I am here

Me and my partner, well we are not officially partners but we live are life like married couple But he will not officially date or say he is my boyfriend.

We have been together for almost 5 years now and at first it was great, we where sexual and he had no problem being intimate. But now we never have sex or anything I try all the time to hint or make a move but he turns me down which majorly hurts my self esteem about almost a year ago we where having major money problems so we resorted to escorting and every day for 4 months we played with each other but once that stopped we stopped basically we have only messed around twice since. It really hurts because he had no problem doing it for money but now he always says no, I don't try to make a move all the time because I don't want to seem desperate but it is starting to really hurt me.

It is not like he doesn't get horny, he tells me he mastsrbates all the time but I don't understand why he would rather masterbate then have me give him oral or have sex. And when we do have sex or I give him oral he does enjoy it and gets off, last time he had sex he even said "this is better then you masterbating. You like this cock"
So if he enjoys it why won't he let me do anything I don't have a high sex drive so I am not asking for it all the time but when I rarely do offer or make a move which is so hard for me to do because i feel like a desperate loser. But I don't know what else to do then at least hint or make a move and try to get some. I love him I really do but this is something that really hurts and I just don't understand what is wrong

PLEASE SOMEONE HELP I NEED COCK!
I need to know what to do, I need to I know why he would rAther masterbate then have me give him oral, I need to know why he had no problem for months when it was for money But now that it's not for money and just pleasure he will turn me down everytime. What shouId I do ? Keep asking for it and hope it happens ? Just jump on him and shove it in my mouth ? I have been keeping this inside me for awhile now, and I honestly can't take it anymore, and everytime he turns me down I feel like crying I have never been turned down except for him an it takes every ounce of strength I have to make that hint or go to reach for that cock because I am in fear how he will react

I just would like to be able to be like any other couple and not have to be afraid to ask him and get turned down or just be able to grab his cock and put it in my mouth. Or At least every once in awhile get it ? WHAT IS SO WRON WITH ME THAT HE WOULD RATHER MASTERBATE ? And it's not that I give good head I have been with two of friends when we where separated and they ask me to give them head at least every couple of weeks but I turn them down so it's not like I am terrible!

someone please give me advice I really need it, I have nobody to talk to about this and need some advice what would you do ? And how can I fix this? How do I get some cock that's all I fucking want !

[dynamodean]

It has come to the point that I do not know what to do anymore and this is why I am here

Me and my partner, well we are not officially partners but we live are life like married couple But he will not officially date or say he is my boyfriend.

We have been together for almost 5 years now and at first it was great, we where sexual and he had no problem being intimate. But now we never have sex or anything I try all the time to hint or make a move but he turns me down which majorly hurts my self esteem about almost a year ago we where having major money problems so we resorted to escorting and every day for 4 months we played with each other but once that stopped we stopped basically we have only messed around twice since. It really hurts because he had no problem doing it for money but now he always says no, I don't try to make a move all the time because I don't want to seem desperate but it is starting to really hurt me.

It is not like he doesn't get horny, he tells me he mastsrbates all the time but I don't understand why he would rather masterbate then have me give him oral or have sex. And when we do have sex or I give him oral he does enjoy it and gets off, last time he had sex he even said "this is better then you masterbating. You like this cock"
So if he enjoys it why won't he let me do anything I don't have a high sex drive so I am not asking for it all the time but when I rarely do offer or make a move which is so hard for me to do because i feel like a desperate loser. But I don't know what else to do then at least hint or make a move and try to get some. I love him I really do but this is something that really hurts and I just don't understand what is wrong

PLEASE SOMEONE HELP I NEED COCK!
I need to know what to do, I need to I know why he would rAther masterbate then have me give him oral, I need to know why he had no problem for months when it was for money But now that it's not for money and just pleasure he will turn me down everytime. What shouId I do ? Keep asking for it and hope it happens ? Just jump on him and shove it in my mouth ? I have been keeping this inside me for awhile now, and I honestly can't take it anymore, and everytime he turns me down I feel like crying I have never been turned down except for him an it takes every ounce of strength I have to make that hint or go to reach for that cock because I am in fear how he will react

I just would like to be able to be like any other couple and not have to be afraid to ask him and get turned down or just be able to grab his cock and put it in my mouth. Or At least every once in awhile get it ? WHAT IS SO WRON WITH ME THAT HE WOULD RATHER MASTERBATE ? And it's not that I give good head I have been with two of friends when we where separated and they ask me to give them head at least every couple of weeks but I turn them down so it's not like I am terrible!

someone please give me advice I really need it, I have nobody to talk to about this and need some advice what would you do ? And how can I fix this? How do I get some cock that's all I fucking want !

This can be tough but I think it really depends on how you feel about him. I noticed you never once mentioned love in your lengthy post. After being with him for 5 years, how do you feel about him on an emotional level? It seems (and I may be wrong) that you two have been together because you like each other's company and you had lots of great sex (initially). You should talk to him about your sexual needs and how it is an important way for you to connect with him. If he doesn't put out, and you don't have a lot emotionally invested in him...maybe consider leaving him and find someone that can connect with you on more levels?

Do you want his cock or do you just want cock in general?

[Borg69]

You say he escorted. I would imagine escorting cheapens the intimacy of sex into a thankless dreary job. I often wonder if gynecologists are excited to see their wives naked after staring at women parts all day.

[ChadCoxRox]

There's sex...then there's making love. If your relationship is sexless and loveless, that's not relationshipping, it's roomies. Get a boyfriend or make a friend with benefits on purpose or try some safe hook ups. If you can do this in relationship with your roomie it might be best, but it's not my place to judge.

If it were me, he'd the message REAL quick verbally and then quite quickly in deed!

[Adam]

You keep saying you have no idea why he acts this way and you don't know what to do. How about sitting him down and asking him. We can all try to offer suggestions, but ultimately, he's the only one who can tell you why he behaves that way.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

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Relationships have their ups and downs. There are several reasons why sex dies out early in relationships, mostly it has a lot to do with the stressors of exterior life, financial crap is usually the big killer.

How do I get some cock that's all I fucking want !

If this is all you want, then you can go out and get it - no? You all turned tricks for a while so you know how to get it - and how to get it to pay you for that encounter.

So is it any cock will do, or are you being specific in your cock-choices here?

If you are being specific you need to step back a little and look at the whole picture and try to see it from his point of view.

Is he working, is there stress in life - does the match up for libido times between you two never seem to mesh?

This is really an issue of communication. You only hint? Hinting goes only so far.

You need to turn off the devices, turn him to face you and you need to tell him what you told us.... To his face, directly, point blank.

This is called communication. Yes its hard to do, and its a dying art form since so many people have their nose stuck in a device and are 'socializing' and no longer really communicating.

You need to ask the hard questions here, and tell him how it makes you feel when he turns you down.

And you have to take a moment and shut the flap trap and really listen to his reasons, how he feels about _____________.... once you two put your cards on the table then you two can start working things out.

This ain't going to happen until you share the data you both have. That requires communication.

[Virge]

Brent I've read all 3 of your posts about this same issue and I'm not going to offer any advice.

Anytime and everytime a friend (gay or straight) comes to me with a relationship story like this it always turns out that all that's being told is the best parts of one side of the story.

All I'm going to say is lack of sex isn't the problem in your "relationship", it's just a symptom of what sounds like a totally fucked up, complicated, codependent, dramagnified situation that two people are in. You have a butt load of things to work on before you even start talking about relationships or sex so stop spinning your wheels repeating yourself and start looking deep down for the causes of this situation you're in and THEN maybe someone can help you.

[AlfredM]

Sounds like a friends with benefits case where the benefit is no longer given. I really don't understand how is it you consider this a relationship when he won't even make it official,sounds sooo one-sided to me. Maybe you're the only one in this 'relationship'. He has no need to compromise with you if he doesn't even consider himself your partner.

[TwisttheLeaf]

You keep saying you have no idea why he acts this way and you don't know what to do. How about sitting him down and asking him. We can all try to offer suggestions, but ultimately, he's the only one who can tell you why he behaves that way.

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You and your partner need to sit down and talk. Like others have noticed, there was no mention of love in your post. No mention of an emotional attachment at all. Maybe this is the issue?

Hard to tell without sitting down and talking with him to figure out what's going on. Both of you are currently in the dark from the sound of things.

[ETOTE]

Um, it's quite simple to me.... (and that's quite an achievement)

If I was involved with someone I cared about and then turned to prostituting them for money with me involved because of our dire financial situation, my sexual desire for them would forever be mired and clouded with those thoughts and feelings of desperation, anxiety and negativity because all I would have in my head is the sick crap we did for perverts willing to pay us to perform for them. That is a mind job and you are being completely selfish, clueless and ignorant to not think the crap you two did for money will not affect him and haunt him in any way.

Perhaps talking to him about it would help, he may be suffering in silence and isolation thanks to your selfish behavior. He may need therapy and your lack of compassion and interest in his well being is rather disturbing and sociopathic in nature.