Cues in the Gay Dating World

[ExpatBrit77]

When you say stuff I assume you don't mean popcorn

[TwisttheLeaf]

I don't spoon and kiss with my friends. It's kind of obvious.

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The hot and cold could be due to a number of things. Maybe he hasn't ever tried guys before and he's nervous. Maybe at work he feels "safe" to flirt without it going "too far" but away from work he's more nervous about doing so.

It could be a lot of things. Best route would be asking him.... away from work, obviously.

[IndependentDude]

I do appreciate everyone's reponses...haha.

I do want to ask him point blank, but I'm also afraid of being pushy and scare him off. I don't even want any sort of commitment from him right now -- I just like hanging out with him. I'd just like to know for sure either way.

And I'm also hoping I'm not just one of a handful of guys he's doing this with.

[TwisttheLeaf]

Asking him if he likes you doesn't mean you have to ask him to be committed or in a relationship.

It's all in how you present the questions, yeah? Take some time to figure out the least threatening way to get your questions answered.

[Buzzer]

I do appreciate everyone's reponses...haha.

I do want to ask him point blank, but I'm also afraid of being pushy and scare him off. I don't even want any sort of commitment from him right now -- I just like hanging out with him. I'd just like to know for sure either way.

And I'm also hoping I'm not just one of a handful of guys he's doing this with.

He came over and spooned and kissed with you in bed... and you're still questioning if he's interested or not. I'd say at this point, he's the one convinced he's going to scare you off. He's probably waiting for some kind of sign that you're comfortable. My guess is he's probably received very vague messages about whether or not you want to proceed... he probably isn't sure.

[East]

Why do people insist on dating co-workers?

Yeah...that is a good point. It is usually a bad idea.

[smilio]

Ok this is very similar to the situation I was in apart from much further along and kinda obvious
He is into you but at work has to be professional
I'm in a relationship with my supervisor but we have to be professional at work it's the way it is

My advice from someone whose been there ask him out on a few dates spend some time together alone and see how it goes
It worked for me and it wasn't as obvious

[Virge]

here's a bright idea from my straight room mate who's sitting here reading -------------
Skip the whole "are you interested in me?" yak........
Just tell him that you're not sure the two of you should keep on doing that because it's making you want t rape him... and either he's going to stop doing it....... or make sure he does it after you've warned him....

he does this shit with girls all the friggin time with a 90% success rate and I should have thought about it myself.

[Virge]

Since May?????? Haven't you guys heard of Skype fucking?

He talked me into skype-jacking this morning for the 1st time in ages. All that does is make it worse.

[Buzzer]

He talked me into skype-jacking this morning for the 1st time in ages. All that does is make it worse.

There went the three liters!