For me....it was always about the mental and emotional connection I was able to make as well as the sex. With the right guy.....it was magic....but if there was just one little distraction or niggling doubt about the personality of the guy...........I just made it all about him and then JO'd with his help after.
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Ten minutes? That's about the length of a sex scene in a porn flick, isn't it? That's not the way to do it in real life.
It's not a race, you know. With my and my guy once it's in it stays there until someone gets hungry. Turn the phones off, let the dogs out, send the room mate to get his car painted, put a not on the door and take your time.
He'll be here tomorrow and I guarantee the only thing we're going to do for ten minutes is catch our breath.
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