08-01-2014, 08:35 PM
I've never dated or been in a relationship, but when my friends ask me "What do you look for in a guy/What type of guy are you interested in?" I always have a sure answer. Physically: Height. That's pretty much it in the physical department, don't care about race or eye/hair color or muscularity. Personality wise, I'm sure we could all go on for hours, but to make things simple, someone who is masculine, gentle, and caring. I always thought "gentle" and "caring" were pretty self explanatory, but I never quite knew how to describe what I meant by masculine.
I work at McDonalds, and recently a new employee has begun working there. One of my coworkers knows about me, so she asked my opinion of the new guy. I admitted he was tall and handsome, but the person's character is too important for me to blinded by looks. She laughed at me, and it was over and done with. A few hours later I went on break, and of course he happened to go on break at the same time. He introduced himself to me, struck up a conversation, and as we went to clock back in, said he was sure we would get to know each other better within the coming weeks. Needless to say, it was a great first impression, and I thought he was very charming.
Later, as I was taking orders and stocking supplies, I had a customer approach me and ask for some jalapenos in a to go container. I turn around and tell one of my coworkers in the kitchen to get some jalapenos for me, but he doesn't respond. Instead, he is chatting with another coworker. Before I get a chance to ask him again, the new guy speaks up and asks me what I need. I tell him. He then authoritatively tells the guy in the kitchen to get the jalapenos for me. The guy is caught off guard by his firmness, but he quickly gets them and hands them over to me.
I guess that's what I mean by masculine. A guy who takes charge, who is confident, who makes eye contact when you speak to him. He initiated a conversation with me, and there was no hesitation or anxiety in his voice. Also, he saw that I was being ignored and he spoke up and did something about it. I'm not a pushover, so I can stand up for myself. Moreover, these characteristics that I find attractive, I strive to promote in myself. Still, I'm surprised at myself for how quickly I became charmed by him. Masculine to me isn't some big muscular guy, or dominant top, or even just some tall guy. Masculine for me doesn't really have anything to do with "position" in the bedroom. In fact, I don't really care about that. It's the way they carry themselves.
I apologize for the long post. What do you guys look for in a guy by the way?
I work at McDonalds, and recently a new employee has begun working there. One of my coworkers knows about me, so she asked my opinion of the new guy. I admitted he was tall and handsome, but the person's character is too important for me to blinded by looks. She laughed at me, and it was over and done with. A few hours later I went on break, and of course he happened to go on break at the same time. He introduced himself to me, struck up a conversation, and as we went to clock back in, said he was sure we would get to know each other better within the coming weeks. Needless to say, it was a great first impression, and I thought he was very charming.
Later, as I was taking orders and stocking supplies, I had a customer approach me and ask for some jalapenos in a to go container. I turn around and tell one of my coworkers in the kitchen to get some jalapenos for me, but he doesn't respond. Instead, he is chatting with another coworker. Before I get a chance to ask him again, the new guy speaks up and asks me what I need. I tell him. He then authoritatively tells the guy in the kitchen to get the jalapenos for me. The guy is caught off guard by his firmness, but he quickly gets them and hands them over to me.
I guess that's what I mean by masculine. A guy who takes charge, who is confident, who makes eye contact when you speak to him. He initiated a conversation with me, and there was no hesitation or anxiety in his voice. Also, he saw that I was being ignored and he spoke up and did something about it. I'm not a pushover, so I can stand up for myself. Moreover, these characteristics that I find attractive, I strive to promote in myself. Still, I'm surprised at myself for how quickly I became charmed by him. Masculine to me isn't some big muscular guy, or dominant top, or even just some tall guy. Masculine for me doesn't really have anything to do with "position" in the bedroom. In fact, I don't really care about that. It's the way they carry themselves.
I apologize for the long post. What do you guys look for in a guy by the way?
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