My boyfriend, me and a cat.

[Cuddly]

I'm not a cat person.

But getting a dog was one of the best things we ever did! Having a fussy little beast to come home to, to be greeted with infinite glee and unconditional love, every day, has done wonders for my general mood. Cat's can't do this for me, but they can for some.
If you've never had a pet, then you probably don't understand the charm of it. But you will, in time.

I think you're being mean to your boyfriend, to be honest. If it's 100% a question of not having the money for it, fine, but somehow I don't really believe a cat will tip the scales. Does he realise what he's signing up for, though?

[Virge]

Let me see if I have this right....
This guy and his boyfriend had a fight over him wanting some furry little pussy

and then it ends up here as an anonymous post asking for advice than being posted in humor and jokes.

Sackfaces need to be unmasked for what they really are.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I don't wany an animal in our house. What's so bad about it? Maybe I could put up with it for him with time, but I'll never love this animal whoever it might be, cat or dog or maybe snake. If he really takes it home, I'll just ignore it.

When he'll finally start to earn his own money, it'll probably be different. But I'm the only one who's working and I think it's not honest that I have to feed him, myself and now this creature. I don't earn millions by the way.

And yes, of course, I don't like that he thinks my opinion is not important. I also have unfulfilled wishes but I realize that for now it's impossible to make them true, because we have more important things to worry about.

[LJay]

Read that last post thoroughly and several times. I think you are getting more clear about it all.

How long has your guy been out of work and what are his prospects?

To attempt to be Rogerian about it, I sense that you are stressed by the situation.

[Virge]

Why do you think that an issue over your boyfriend wanting a friggin pussy is reason for you to show up here as an anonymous sackface?

Here. https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=32481 Go talk to another sackface about it.

[LJay]

And I don't mean the pet issue.

[Gideon]

Ok.... first and foremost. To someone that has a need to nurture? Going and petting homeless dogs and cats slated to be put to death is torture. It's not fun. It's not pleasant. It doesn't sate a need in them.

It's torture.

I personaly cannot go to those places. It kills me to know that the animals up for adoption may end up put to death if someone doesn't take them home. It makes my heart very litereally -ache- in my chest.

You told him to go and to be honest? I'm not surprised he met a pet that he can't leave behind. (This is the other reason I don't go to these places, because I want to take them ALL home.)

There is a huge difference between visiting an animal, and -having- an animal. Just as there's a huge difference between visiting someone with a baby, or -having- your own baby. People with a huge need to nurture? They can't do that by -visiting- animals. They need more than that. A bond with a specific animal they can call their own gives them this. (I could also liken this to the difference between going on random hook-ups.... or having a boyfriend. Same concept, different species.)

Instead of looking at this as a thing that it's either "you or the cat" or which one is more important to him? Maybe you should consider that he has a NEED to be filled. One you can't fill (no one can fill all of their partners needs, on all levels. Sorry, but it's impossible.) The cat fills this need.

Feel lucky he didn't want a ferret or a dog or some other higher-maintenance animal. And make damned sure you're nice to that cat, man. Or it will show an ugly side of you he probably won't be willing to tolerate.

That all said? If this is truly a financial issue and not a "I don't want a damned pet" issue? Then ask him to hold off on getting a pet until he has a job. I doubt you will get him to hold off much longer than that tho. Perhaps the goal of having the pet will help him get a job even faster, yeah?

On a side note...

I love Gideon more than anyone else in the word (except my twin sister). If he told me to get rid of my cat (or if something happened to her and I was going to get another and he told me no?) I'd tell him to kiss my ass. This includes if we were living together. *Shrugging.* Some people need a pet. Some don't.

*Glances around at his little menagerie of animals and chuckles* Yeah I don't think I'd be telling you no, man. I can't even tell -them- no

But I have decided at some point in time that I need a baby sugar glider*Chuckles*

[LJay]

Virge (if you are Virge,) how do we know it is you under that sack?

[Virge]

Virge (if you are Virge,) how do we know it is you under that sack?

I have a a profile. Also I been trying to change my avatar back but GS is having a glitch there

[Iceblink]

I have a a profile. Also I been trying to change my avatar back but GS is having a glitch there

Good, it's not just me. I deleted my last avatar and it won't let me upload a new one. I thought maybe I had changed it too much recently and used up my chances.