"Do you have a girlfriend?"

[meridannight]

Another quick question, I'm still kind of confused about the "me leading him on part" I'm not offended, I just want to understand. Leading him on to a friendship with a straight guy, is that what you guys meant?

leading him on to a false impression. that was it. but i think the false impression goes both ways, like i explained. you weren't really leading him on to that.

[Bhp91126]

Don't overthink it man. You're still getting comfy telling strangers. With him you messed up, but you know it and next time will be better.

The question was also pretty intimate, I wish our resident straight guy had chimed in, to tell us whether straight men are always this blunt with each other (jk Ray).

When you decide to tell him, try to make it clear, that you are NOT coming on to him. Many straight guys seem to think that's our main motive for telling them.

[LJay]

I have mixed feelings about this. No, there is nothing wrong with being gay. On the other hand, why volunteer for abuse in a situation where being gay, as they say, "don't make no never mind?" If I were to be having a beer or painting a fence with a guy, I would have no expectations of him to hand me a label for his sexuality. I'm gay. So what. We're drinking a beer. So what. It really is none of his business what I am sexually.

Now if the guy were to ask me, I think it is just fine to tell him. If he has some sort of a problem with it, we have the choice to work it out or make space between us. It is another situation. Perhaps you read the post about the Christian swingers. I hope so. I'd find it obnoxious to be evangelized while having group sex. It just does not fit. SHOman, there is nothing wrong with people knowing you are gay, but there is also nothing wrong with your being so comfortable with it that you see it as no big deal. If it comes up, that is one thing. To bring it up, that is another. In my case, I would not feel comfortable walking up to someone at a party and saying, Hi, I'm an Episcopalian." It just does not make for a good conversation starter.

Be who you are. Apologize to no one. And be prepared with an answer to the guy working on his car with an answer like, "Hah! Since you ask, what do you think about that?" before you commit yourself and make an enemy. It is easy to back off then and, though, he make not like you for it, you will come out of the encounter being the one with more manners and more grace, as well as having the chance to maintain your dignity.

And since it came up, I am an Episcopalian, nee Presbyterian, but this isn't the place. PM me if you are curious.

Now if the guy you are having a beer with volunteers, "After four beers, I like gay sex, just turn to the bartender and order him three more rounds. Nothing to discuss at all.

[Sil]

Might not be as funny as some of the other answers but hey -

Knowing what you should do, and actually doing it, are totally different things. I still get weird about coming out to new people even now, but it gets a little easier every time; a lot of the time people just respect you for having the confidence and assurance to just come out with it. If it's easier you can sidestep the big G-word by phrasing it another way. You sometimes get a little surprise, but it's never as bad as your brain tells you it's going to be. I was worried I'd lose a lot of friends when I came out, but it was fine; good luck mate, be strong and don't worry too much x

[SHOman93]

Hey guys. I know this is a relatively old thread but I've been so busy lately and I didn't get a chance to tell you guys what happened! Lol

I told my friend a couple of days after my last post, that I was gay. I said along the lines, I'm sorry that I didn't come right out and say it but I was hoping you would figure it out yourself. His response was " YES! I just got 20 bucks!" I just looked at him funny.

Apparently him and another friend that we both hang out made a bet that I was gay. And my friend I told won.

He then said, he was really sorry that he kept asking about girlfriends and stuff. He should have just left it up to me to tell him if I wanted too. He then said I was one of the coolest people he has met and that he still totally wants to be friends. In fact I just got back from doing some homework and playing some video games at his house.

I really glad he was so cool about it. I didn't know what to think about the bet at first but it was all in good fun. My other friend has a gay brother so he is completely fine with it. Lol.

[ShiftyNJ]

There is hope for the world. I just replied to your comment on similar thread.

[ceez]

Hello what the hell is here?

a troll eeewwww kill it

[bootsguy]

Answering them with I am exclusively gay or I am Bisexual will answer and silence them.