10-03-2014, 02:55 PM
Hello all,
So I've moved to Manchester in the UK for university and people had been asking me why I chose the city and I've been telling them that the engineering school is good and that I liked the city. The real reason is that yes the university is really good, but also the city is very gay friendly and everyone is very accepting, something that I was missing on in my home country, however I seem to have a problem with all these bars and the vibrant scene life.
The problem that I have is that until now I've only had Grindr, which is very different from going to a club because with it you know what you are getting yourself into - you know if it is just going to be a one time thing, or you are going to be friends, or it is going to be a proper date. However I don't really know how clubs and meeting people there works because in all of my four visits to the gay bars here I've been able to meet a boy/man to hook up with and by 3-4 am we are if not drunk, at least tipsy, so I would invite the person over to my place, which he would accept and once at home we would kiss, cuddle and have oral, but both of us will not initiate sex in any way, I personally do not feel like having sex with random people anymore. And then it would be 5-6 am and we'd fall asleep. In the morning we would wake up, kiss, exchange numbers, I'd sent them off to the gate of the park (my house is in a tiny park as I love nature) and they will always say that they will call me , but never do.
The problem that I have is that I liked* some of these people and would have loved to take them on a proper date or cook them dinner, and just to get to know them better. I specifically really liked the guy from two night ago and like three hours ago I texted him to ask if he was feeling better as he was not feeling alright when we woke up but he didn't answer to my text * I just don't understand whether I am doing something wrong or these people just thought that it is a one night thing. And I'll be really grateful if you could explain to me how does meeting people in clubs work - how do you understand if they want just a hook up or they will be happy to go on a date too as I don't mind kissing or giving oral to a guy, but that in my mind doesn't stop me from wanting to go on a date with him another time, which I don't know if is the case with othee people.
I'll be really grateful if you could be just honest and to share your experiences, or just any tips that you may have as clubbing is all new to me...
Thank you very much in advance )
So I've moved to Manchester in the UK for university and people had been asking me why I chose the city and I've been telling them that the engineering school is good and that I liked the city. The real reason is that yes the university is really good, but also the city is very gay friendly and everyone is very accepting, something that I was missing on in my home country, however I seem to have a problem with all these bars and the vibrant scene life.
The problem that I have is that until now I've only had Grindr, which is very different from going to a club because with it you know what you are getting yourself into - you know if it is just going to be a one time thing, or you are going to be friends, or it is going to be a proper date. However I don't really know how clubs and meeting people there works because in all of my four visits to the gay bars here I've been able to meet a boy/man to hook up with and by 3-4 am we are if not drunk, at least tipsy, so I would invite the person over to my place, which he would accept and once at home we would kiss, cuddle and have oral, but both of us will not initiate sex in any way, I personally do not feel like having sex with random people anymore. And then it would be 5-6 am and we'd fall asleep. In the morning we would wake up, kiss, exchange numbers, I'd sent them off to the gate of the park (my house is in a tiny park as I love nature) and they will always say that they will call me , but never do.
The problem that I have is that I liked* some of these people and would have loved to take them on a proper date or cook them dinner, and just to get to know them better. I specifically really liked the guy from two night ago and like three hours ago I texted him to ask if he was feeling better as he was not feeling alright when we woke up but he didn't answer to my text * I just don't understand whether I am doing something wrong or these people just thought that it is a one night thing. And I'll be really grateful if you could explain to me how does meeting people in clubs work - how do you understand if they want just a hook up or they will be happy to go on a date too as I don't mind kissing or giving oral to a guy, but that in my mind doesn't stop me from wanting to go on a date with him another time, which I don't know if is the case with othee people.
I'll be really grateful if you could be just honest and to share your experiences, or just any tips that you may have as clubbing is all new to me...
Thank you very much in advance )