Because I'm strange

[EvenOlderButWiser]

There is nothing wrong with being romantic about what the future holds.

I'm still an old romantic at heart. Once a romantic, always a romantic.

I think its sweet

[Jake]

Well go ahead and marry, marriage doesn't change anything, you love him before and if that love was true before the wedding you are going to love him the very same. However, if you are going to plan your wedding you my young friend are going to get a Massive Asswipe Reality Slap.

While it's nice and romantic, marriage is a lot of organization and depending what kind of wedding you want it will COST you. For a young couple who haven't lived more than 2 weeks together, when this will get to the financial you will realize.

But you know what? Do as you please... even though I agree with BA about not trusting anyone on the Internet, and I do the very same myself, there's some advise given by people who actually lived before you.

I have married, 6 years after LIVING TOGETHER, having things, kids and BUSINESS together. before making that decision we discussed the reason why we were getting married. Marriage was never important for me until I understood that our beautiful common law was not bearing any rights to my long lasting partner or to me if I we're to die or have an accident leaving me completely vegetable. WE we're not marrying for Romantic reason, because the romantic is part of everyday by LIVING TOGETHER. I hope you'll get the point.

But you have the last choice. My wedding cost nearly 250k even though we had the money to do such extravagant wedding, only the organization, the planning, turned Alex and I into a nervous wreck and we almost called it off because I preferred keeping my dude than having a stupid discussion after the so called beautiful wedding.

If the age I see there is your age, I'd wait to have LIVE TOGETHER and perhaps have another plan than wedding as first romantic gesture. Go to Paris, Buy a pony, these are as good and funny enough cost way less than a wedding.

Good luck!

[Jake]

Few other questions comes to my head.

Why do you want to marry? Is it for the sake of calling him "my husband", this is an heterosexy world it will only matter to you call him my husband.

You want a ring on your left hand? Alex and I had each a ring on our left hand way before we got married.

ROMANTISM? When you two get the bills and find out that you'll need to eat on Mac and Cheese for the next year to come if that last a year because financial is often the first reason of divorce in a couple - hay or straight.

Have you notice how I make reference to Alex my his first name more than using my husband. Because Alex is my BEST FRIEND way before being my husband. We share a lot together just like best friends do and we don't feel the need to use the term husband. I call him baby only here, or in our bed, otherwise I call him ALEX and he's my husband but we were friends way before. The only perks of such special friendship his that we suck each other's dicks and fuck each other's ass, but when we're not abusing our body's fluid you'd see us as two amusing guys who love and play together.

Honestly get off your cloud and think twice. There's decisions that cannot been taken likely and marriage is one of them.

[Humeinator2]

Why are you the one who shouldn't be trusted?

I made more than a few mistakes, saying something, falling for the test he gave me (he said I could do things with my ex, HAH, that must be an old trick, but still, I fell for it... though I AM a bit lacking in smarts at times..) and I eventually decided that my attachment to my roleplay pals was bad and I should let him go before I hurt one of us.. of course, he was then "Married" not but a month afterwords, but eh, what Can I do...

I thought about him a lot, and he was a subconsious standard for all my boyfriends from then on...

here we are, two, almost three years later, and he's mine again, so not only am I making sure I can't make mistakes this time... so yeah, out of this amount of information, I'm sure it will be agreed, I'm the untrustable one here

Also Jake, My stepdad and Mom where together 6 or 7 years before marrying, and my goal was to be negaged as long (or longer) than them
after all, they are almost made for eachot

[Humeinator2]

and part of the marriage thing is to make my Great Grandparents, and myself, proud. amoung many other things, other than the whole "He's mine I'm his" part of being Married
I say proud for lack of a better word, but also because it takes currage, dedication, and smarts to be able to handle a marriage and have the money for it..
I've always been told I'll amount to nothing, or that I'd never be a good husband..... well, I know I won't amount ot anything or be a good husband if I don't try to amount to anything or be a good one.
also, that "Cloud" is one of the few reasons My depression problems (which arte back in force, do to my damnably stressfull problems with my job, soon to be complained about in another post, and other things, like my family) so I think I'll keep my little mud cloud with me, it's better then trudging through a darkness I've always had.
also, since I probably sound like a little pissant when I talk, I'd like to say I honestly don't mean to, I have major problems wording things the ->way

[Alex]

I made more than a few mistakes, saying something, falling for the test he gave me (he said I could do things with my ex, HAH, that must be an old trick, but still, I fell for it... though I AM a bit lacking in smarts at times..) and I eventually decided that my attachment to my roleplay pals was bad and I should let him go before I hurt one of us.. of course, he was then "Married" not but a month afterwords, but eh, what Can I do...

I thought about him a lot, and he was a subconsious standard for all my boyfriends from then on...

here we are, two, almost three years later, and he's mine again, so not only am I making sure I can't make mistakes this time... so yeah, out of this amount of information, I'm sure it will be agreed, I'm the untrustable one here

Also Jake, My stepdad and Mom where together 6 or 7 years before marrying, and my goal was to be negaged as long (or longer) than them
after all, they are almost made for eachot

I don't believe you understood a word of what Jake said. But hey that's your head. Don't compare yourself with your parents they LIVED together. You didn't you never know a person enough until you live on a daily basis with them. What jake said it that before making any big plan in a relationship, you need to have at least live together nothing will replace the touch and the presence of your boyfriend. Yes I also read some of the couples here that are in distance relationship and I'm certain at least one can tell you that living together or near one another or having proper arrangement to at least see each other each month make the whole difference. You're 18 my friend you can call it the way you want but what you have there nomatter how much you love him is not a relationship. At least not until you plan something else as than a wedding when you barely have been with one another.

Jake did surprise me when he asked to marry, I knew from the very start he didn't want to ever marry. But through the years we had a house together, cars, boat, lots of asset, I'm also board member in his business, we have adopted children and three dogs and a parrot. The part I found romantic in his request wasn't much the wedding, it was his thought of securing what we have built TOGETHER, your parents have built something together. You, I don't know, but you haven't built anything yet, you just want the fairy tale. yes he went crazy with the wedding cost, it didn't need to be that much and I gave him shit for that, but that's just my Jake everything he does has to be memorable and grand. Well, he succeeds. This was a magical moment, but what's more magical is that nobody can run and destroy what we have built together if anything was to happen to any of us.

Really boy, throwing 3 and 4 years that you have been in a utopic relationship doesn't automatically translate as being a relationship.

[Humeinator2]

my goal for the NEAR future is actually living together....
embarrassingly enough I never meantioned that before tdid I?
I just want plans, thus thinking of wedding Ideas (I have five that I'm researching current costs for), because otherwise I stress out... I like plans, kinda like having missions in the RPG's I play (Role playing game, in case you're not much into games)
because I'm odd... and what was that 3 or 4 years thing about ? not sure If I understand since my relationship was 1 year 4 months the first time and is now a fw months

[Alex]

my goal for the NEAR future is actually living together....
embarrassingly enough I never meantioned that before tdid I?
I just want plans, thus thinking of wedding Ideas (I have five that I'm researching current costs for), because otherwise I stress out... I like plans, kinda like having missions in the RPG's I play (Role playing game, in case you're not much into games)
because I'm odd... and what was that 3 or 4 years thing about ? not sure If I understand since my relationship was 1 year 4 months the first time and is now a fw months

I'm 28 baby boy I was playing RPG when you were still peeing yourself LOL. You're not that weird, you're pretty much typical teenager with dreams that sometimes may go overboard. You may have wrongly explain, but I understand now. Anyway, I still hope that what we told you will sink in your head before you make any decisions that you may regret. I'm sorry if we misunderstood you. I started going out with Jake when I was 19, I had few date before but Jake is my real first relationship, the one where one day he violently pushed me against the wall and broke my bubblewarp world by telling ME "a super model" that I was ugly in my head. He made me cry so much that day but what he told me sunk in. And I started understanding that it was much more important to stay humble and not becoming an obnoxious little fuck who thought that because I could just bat my eyelashes or get a guy just by smiling at him that was going to be love.

You're still young - so am I for that matter, but having been with a guy like Jake made me wake the fuck up. It's okay to dream dude but don't lose the north.

And when the waterworks start for me I'm not that beautiful LOL.

[Jake]

I'm 28 baby boy I was playing RPG when you were still peeing yourself LOL. You're not that weird, you're pretty much typical teenager with dreams that sometimes may go overboard. You may have wrongly explain, but I understand now. Anyway, I still hope that what we told you will sink in your head before you make any decisions that you may regret. I'm sorry if we misunderstood you. I started going out with Jake when I was 19, I had few date before but Jake is my real first relationship, the one where one day he violently pushed me against the wall and broke my bubblewarp world by telling ME "a super model" that I was ugly in my head. He made me cry so much that day but what he told me sunk in. And I started understanding that it was much more important to stay humble and not becoming an obnoxious little fuck who thought that because I could just bat my eyelashes or get a guy just by smiling at him that was going to be love.

You're still young - so am I for that matter, but having been with a guy like Jake made me wake the fuck up. It's okay to dream dude but don't lose the north.

And when the waterworks start for me I'm not that beautiful LOL.

You never were an obnoxious teen Alex, in fact, you were very smart and very focused, however, your testosterone was way too high which is normal with pretty much any teen age 19, but in your case because of your look, this was an extremely dangerous behavior. You do recall how many fucking time you were approached to make porn videos and if it wasn't for me chasing them away you would have done it. You're a respectable doctor today, can you imagine having a slut record attached to it. Good looking people are often labeled as slut even when they are not, you would have had been one and lost all respect. That's why that day I thump you against the wall, and it had to be strong enough to make sure you'd understand. I didn't know you recall that, I must have hurt you so much, I'm sorry if I did. I did remember you crying, but believe me it has hurt me too.

And dude you're even pretty when taking a dump. And when you cried that day you looked like that poor child that got grounded, unfortunately for you I learned to let children cry, but yes I wanted so much to hug you and apologize but this wouldn't have made you understand that I was serious.

[LEANDRONJ]

The moon in the sky, But a mirror for the sun, yet more beautiful by far, for the moon lights the beautiful darkness of the night where the Sun fears to show, where the secrets of the world like to play, and where my heart likes to roam.............

I love expressions from the heart that brings together human's inner nature with nature! I'll do my best to break the code behind its verses.

Those who can see in the light of day think what they see is all there is? when in fact there is an even more revealing light within the dark of day! the moon is like a flashlight that beams right down to a specific dark spot. True love at times acts like a beam of light in search of those hidden and secretive places of the heart, where love often hides, because is either too tender and afraid at getting burned, by the harsh light of those who have matured or have grown immuned from its intense light source!

Humeinator2 perhaps your heart is either too tender, afraid of rejection, or just plain hurt!? and that is ok! think and be careful before you throw yourself into the light source of Love, because not only might you go into it blind, but you may not be ready to feel the intense heat of that person you want so bad to love you! in the mean time just enjoy being under the moonlight or in the shadows of love, until you are matured enough to withstand the intense and warmer heat from the sun of love, where not just you but your lover will be bathing in its heat.