I totally F*cked up

[East]

OMG East, it's epic you actually are experienced with these stuff. It makes me so excited and validated. Thanks

I have been reading this guy (Rob) for well over 30 years now....I think he is brilliant. I love his books and his weekly astrology column....

http://www.freewillastrology.com/horoscopes/

[DreamMaker]

I'll check him out!

[TwisttheLeaf]

MikeW always gives some pretty awesome advice. I can definitely attest to the social awkwardness stemming from self acceptance. (For example, I never had social issues until I acquired a scar on my face, then I went through a time of being almost a shut in and, from there, having social phobia issues. It boils down to having to overcome my own issues with that scar - which I'm still working on a bit at a time.)

I think sometimes we just have to accept that we're not for everyone, but we -are- for some. There's always going to be people out there who like you just the way you are. So the changes and things you do to make yourself appealing, interesting, healthy, etc? These are things you do for yourself. For YOUR self esteem. For your peace of mind and happiness.

[Bluelight]

I think I have a mild form of this. I always go for guys who I know I have a chance with, not because I'm necessarily attracted to them, and then I always realize that I'm doing it for the wrong reasons, and it just feels so fake and I end up feeling depressed and wanting to be "free" again. That's why I've never been with anyone for real, I've given people a chance because they're available, not because I have an overwhelming urge to be held by them and to hold their hand, but the people who I have those feelings for are never interested. Either that or they're taken, or straight, or just too shy like me. I am attractive, at least I have that, but with my anxiety, it's almost like that doesn't matter at all. When you're shy and attractive, people think you're stuck up, at least in my case.

[dynamodean]

I don't have much to add as there already have been some GREAT advice here. But I will say this: love (and relationships) is a risk worth taking. As humans we tend to over-analyze this and that, and in the end, we are our own worst critic. You have to give the guys out there some chance to get close to you.

[DreamMaker]

I think I have a mild form of this. I always go for guys who I know I have a chance with, not because I'm necessarily attracted to them, and then I always realize that I'm doing it for the wrong reasons, and it just feels so fake and I end up feeling depressed and wanting to be "free" again. That's why I've never been with anyone for real, I've given people a chance because they're available, not because I have an overwhelming urge to be held by them and to hold their hand, but the people who I have those feelings for are never interested. Either that or they're taken, or straight, or just too shy like me. I am attractive, at least I have that, but with my anxiety, it's almost like that doesn't matter at all. When you're shy and attractive, people think you're stuck up, at least in my case.

I'm exactly like THAT!
Minus the feelings of attractive heheh.

And thank you all for you lovely advice and comments. I really really appreciate it. You rock. Thanks for welcoming me so lovely.

[princealbertofb]

I'm just going to throw in a bit of music.... That loving feeling.


A weird little thing happens at 10'16''

[princealbertofb]

Dream maker, how does your family accept your weirdness and your difference? Do they suspect or know you are differently wired?

[DreamMaker]

Prince, nice vibes hehe. Well fitting.
Oh and my family knows I'm different, no more guessing.
They actually accept it quite well. At first it was difficult, but yeah... they always come for advice to me then.

[princealbertofb]

No reason not to love yourself more then if your family love you too.