10-28-2014, 04:56 PM
First, I frown on the word "Stalking" From here on out you shall refer to this process as 'Intel Gathering' Ooooo makes us sound more like NSA, or HLS or some other alphabet Agency.
Second, We note that every guy in a relationship has told you to forget it, don't set your eyes on just one fellow. They are more fish the sea, and other harsh notions completely and utterly having forgotten that love is blind, the heart is blind and while Mr. Winky has an eye, I fear that he too it totally blind.
Mind relationships tend to kill the romantic side of the heart, leaving this big empty blind spot to the potentials for romance.
Why? most because they know that they are in a same sex relationships, its the same sex, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, and if they are really lucky, decade after decade.
Such forces have a tendency to kill the romance centers of the heart and leave fella unable to comprehend how that one cute guy at work becomes the center of your fantastically rich fantasy world of a future could have been.
My Advice: Ignore the stuffy old, married men. :biggrin:
Second. Stop trying to figure out how to get in a relationship like marriage/dating with this fellow.
Instead figure out how to become friends with him. Find out what his interests are, maybe bowling, or softball or whatever young people do besides keep their nose in their Iphone 8 or whatever.
One rather successful conversation piece is keeping track of American Football Games. Get to know some of the players and their positions on the field. Just being able to know who won the Redskins vs Cowboys (yes the game is this racist, cowboys and Indians - shocking! Oh the Indians won, unlike American History) gives you an opening line toward exploring typical male interests (sports watching, AKA Modern Gladiator Games).
Once you get a friendly toe in the door, so to speak, you can start discovering other interesting things such as his stance on abortion, stem cell research, gays marrying, politics... But before you hit those hot topics you need to know what he feels about Baseball, Basketball, Football and other sundry 'socially acceptable' subjects.
You need to do this like a trained spy, All exterior data, such as their income, job history, home location, which twitter feeds they follow are helpful to a point, but the real data you need can readily be hidden, especially if they are not actively gay.
What does Actively Gay mean?
If you stumble across my facebook page or my twitter page it will bore you to tears. I was following Handyman stuff, Carpentry stuff, hunter/hunting stuff. I rarely if ever actually follow LGBT on social media. Its not because I'm straight, its because Gay is only a sexual orientation for me, its not a lifestyle, its not the sole purpose of my existence.
There are actually a lot of gay men in the world who are like this. Gay is way far down on their list of interests, so they come off seeming to be a straight male.
The only way you can really know the sexual orientation of anyone is when they tell you 'I'm straight' or 'I'm bi' or 'I'm gay' or whatever.
Strangers and mere co-workers will not just offer that sort of data. Well some will, but then it gets all creepy and sad and other things.
Set out on friendship building first and foremost. When you two reach the stage where going to a game, movie, whatever as friends is possible - meaning you two are meeting outside of the office, then you can bring up the subject.
Second, We note that every guy in a relationship has told you to forget it, don't set your eyes on just one fellow. They are more fish the sea, and other harsh notions completely and utterly having forgotten that love is blind, the heart is blind and while Mr. Winky has an eye, I fear that he too it totally blind.
Mind relationships tend to kill the romantic side of the heart, leaving this big empty blind spot to the potentials for romance.
Why? most because they know that they are in a same sex relationships, its the same sex, day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year, and if they are really lucky, decade after decade.
Such forces have a tendency to kill the romance centers of the heart and leave fella unable to comprehend how that one cute guy at work becomes the center of your fantastically rich fantasy world of a future could have been.
My Advice: Ignore the stuffy old, married men. :biggrin:
Second. Stop trying to figure out how to get in a relationship like marriage/dating with this fellow.
Instead figure out how to become friends with him. Find out what his interests are, maybe bowling, or softball or whatever young people do besides keep their nose in their Iphone 8 or whatever.
One rather successful conversation piece is keeping track of American Football Games. Get to know some of the players and their positions on the field. Just being able to know who won the Redskins vs Cowboys (yes the game is this racist, cowboys and Indians - shocking! Oh the Indians won, unlike American History) gives you an opening line toward exploring typical male interests (sports watching, AKA Modern Gladiator Games).
Once you get a friendly toe in the door, so to speak, you can start discovering other interesting things such as his stance on abortion, stem cell research, gays marrying, politics... But before you hit those hot topics you need to know what he feels about Baseball, Basketball, Football and other sundry 'socially acceptable' subjects.
You need to do this like a trained spy, All exterior data, such as their income, job history, home location, which twitter feeds they follow are helpful to a point, but the real data you need can readily be hidden, especially if they are not actively gay.
What does Actively Gay mean?
If you stumble across my facebook page or my twitter page it will bore you to tears. I was following Handyman stuff, Carpentry stuff, hunter/hunting stuff. I rarely if ever actually follow LGBT on social media. Its not because I'm straight, its because Gay is only a sexual orientation for me, its not a lifestyle, its not the sole purpose of my existence.
There are actually a lot of gay men in the world who are like this. Gay is way far down on their list of interests, so they come off seeming to be a straight male.
The only way you can really know the sexual orientation of anyone is when they tell you 'I'm straight' or 'I'm bi' or 'I'm gay' or whatever.
Strangers and mere co-workers will not just offer that sort of data. Well some will, but then it gets all creepy and sad and other things.
Set out on friendship building first and foremost. When you two reach the stage where going to a game, movie, whatever as friends is possible - meaning you two are meeting outside of the office, then you can bring up the subject.
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