Can you be friends with a homophobe that has a crush on you ?

[Melody]

Update , I came out to him and told him that I'm a lesbian , Just like you guys said he started saying how I just need to find the right guy , and how he's the right guy and how he's good in bed and at first he was saying how I probably was lazy in bed and didn't do anything for the guy that's why I didn't enjoy sex with men . Plus he said he met many lesbians like me and turned us . He said that he slept with this one woman who was just like me and told him she was not attracted to men and he said afte she slept with him she told him it was the best orgasm she ever had and she fell in love with him . Personally I call bullshit on this one . He kept pressing me for friends with benefits and I kept telling him .
no . I only like this guy as a friend and I'm not attracted to him in a romantic or sexual way or any other men for that matter but he doesn't seem to get it . I'm worried he'll tell other people because he's friends with someone on my job who enjoys bashing gays and lesbians so I'm scared that my work life might become hell .

[norfolk81]

I personally can't stand narrow minded homophobes, I've experienced my fair share of homophobic abuse since I came out.

I had a friend that I had known since my first day at school, I was having a conversation with him around the time I was considering coming out.

I had often wondered, whether he could be a homophobic person, because of comments he made over the years, but it was confirmed to me, when he told me that he was living with a male flat mate, and his flat mate had just came out as gay, he then started laughing whilst saying, I've kicked him out on the street, and made him homeless.

To be honest I was gobsmacked, I quickly ended the conversation and haven't spoken to him since, I knew in my mind I was planning to come out, and he was one of the people I wanted to tell, because I had been friends with him for over 20 years, but his comments instantly made me decide I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing my true identity, and I'm so glad that I found out who he really was, before telling him about my sexuality.

I think people like him need to stop being so predjudiced, I'm a better person not having someone like him as part of my life, everybody is entitled to be themselves, without fear of what others will think about them.

[findingmyway]

I have a friend who isn't a homophobe, per say, but doesn't agree with me that being gay is natural or right. I recently came out to them (we're not exactly close friends). It's weird, but I get the feeling that it opened up their eyes a little. We've known each other for years now and I think it made them start to consider that not all gays are exactly like the stereotypes portrayed on television.
Okay. My little story is done.