I'm another that wasn't really into sucking dick, at least not until Twist. *shrugs* I can't say I've never done it, but it wasn't something that I got any personal pleasure from...not until him. With him though? Entirely different.
For him, with him, it's hot when it never was before with anyone else.
I also don't think I've ever found the need to -take care- of someone the way I do him. I actually LIKE taking care of him, making sure he takes care of himself, noticing all the small details and just making sure he is happy and healthy.
Maybe all these things are just about being in love, yeah?
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Cuddly Wrote:You know better than to drink and drive! Even if it's the passenger doing the drinking. It's irresponsible to control a 1500 kg vehicle moving at 100 km/h, while being distracted by something so fab!
Meh. It's South Dakota. They don't mind.
Everyone knows they'll go straight to Valhalla if they die in a sexually-related car accident. Plus, they get a hella-cool headstone, no pun intended.
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[MENTION=20359]Cuddly[/MENTION] -- if you haven't gotten past being uncomfortable about being rimmed I can only say you are missing one of the greatest sensations of sex. Try showering together and doing it in there after you've washed each other. Over half the time I rim him enough to not to need any lube. When he does it to me I turn into a crazed beast. hahahaha! He usually lubes himself up real well before and while rimming me because he knows I'm not going to take the time to do it when I turn him over and take charge.
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A bunch of stuff, I guess. I'm usually open to trying stuff out with a guy, even if I've done it before and not been blown away by it. I figure everybody is different, and maybe I'll like it better with this guy. I do think "being in love" heightens the experience, but at the same time, I've had near-mind-blowing sexual experiences with people I'm not in love with. It's chemistry - that undefinable thing where sometimes two plus two equals zero...and sometimes two plus two equals infinity.
Example. I met up with a guy for a weekend once. He said he didn't want to do anal, so we didn't. I assumed we'd mainly do a lot of oral, with him mainly sucking me. But, as it turns out, what we mainly did was make out. He lay on top of me, I grabbed his ass, and we just made out like horny teenagers. We tried plenty of other stuff - we did plenty of oral, I worked his ass over with my hands and mouth, we frotted - but every orgasm I had that weekend was of him laying on top of me making out. Why was that so amazingly hot? Who cares, as long as we can keep doing it, right? 
Lex
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Gideon Wrote:I'm another that wasn't really into sucking dick, at least not until Twist. *shrugs* I can't say I've never done it, but it wasn't something that I got any personal pleasure from...not until him. With him though? Entirely different.
For him, with him, it's hot when it never was before with anyone else.
I also don't think I've ever found the need to -take care- of someone the way I do him. I actually LIKE taking care of him, making sure he takes care of himself, noticing all the small details and just making sure he is happy and healthy.
Maybe all these things are just about being in love, yeah?
I'm with you all the way on every bit of that Gid.... even the small details... knowing what every twitch, touch and sound he makes means. He never has to say "I'm cumming." I usually know before he does. I could get all philosophic about it but basically -- making love with someone is or SHOULD be simultaneously selfish and selfless -- a craving for pleasure and giving pleasure all at the same time in a way where it's almost impossible to divide things up into two separate piles of "my pleasure" and "your pleasure." It's also an expression of your own value of your partner -- and your partner's value of you. To me, my Jay-man is THE perfect man -- almost like a god (not THE god) in a way. Sure he has faults and vulnerabilities and I know them all because he's not afraid to let me see them. The fact that he does let me see them is proof of his trust in me. Because of that trust he gives me I will never in my life turn his faults and vulnerabilities around and use them against him. When he's showing them it's my turn to show I'm strong.
Hardheaded1 Wrote:Meh. It's South Dakota. They don't mind.
Everyone knows they'll go straight to Valhalla if they die in a sexually-related car accident. Plus, they get a hella-cool headstone, no pun intended.
Hahahahaha! I intend to go out as a happy old man, hands on my sword, wearing my helmet on a burning funeral ship with Jord and the three Norns singing as they bring kegs of ale and mead for the party for my arrival.
Correct me if I'm wrong but... I always assumed when people say, "live your life to the fullest" they mean it and I'm trying to do that. I'm not going to go around getting old wishing I'd done things while I could.
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Lexington Wrote:A bunch of stuff, I guess. I'm usually open to trying stuff out with a guy, even if I've done it before and not been blown away by it. I figure everybody is different, and maybe I'll like it better with this guy. I do think "being in love" heightens the experience, but at the same time, I've had near-mind-blowing sexual experiences with people I'm not in love with. It's chemistry - that undefinable thing where sometimes two plus two equals zero...and sometimes two plus two equals infinity.
Example. I met up with a guy for a weekend once. He said he didn't want to do anal, so we didn't. I assumed we'd mainly do a lot of oral, with him mainly sucking me. But, as it turns out, what we mainly did was make out. He lay on top of me, I grabbed his ass, and we just made out like horny teenagers. We tried plenty of other stuff - we did plenty of oral, I worked his ass over with my hands and mouth, we frotted - but every orgasm I had that weekend was of him laying on top of me making out. Why was that so amazingly hot? Who cares, as long as we can keep doing it, right?
Lex
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I have never been affectionate with anyone in an intimate way until the guy I am with...he broke me down and unleashed it in me and eventually made me WANT to be affectionate and intimate.
I was one of those "you can fuck me and I can fuck you but don't ever fucking touch me" guys....being intimate with a guy was not something I wanted...too vulnerable.
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[MENTION=18508]East[/MENTION] ........ but being vulnerable is so frigging nice when you know the person you're vulnerable with is more protective of your vulnerability than you ever could be... Let's call my biggest vulnerability 'X' and jay knows all about it better than i do. All it takes is for anyone even my own parents to put their finger on my X and he turns into a warrior. I guess it's instinctive because if anyone puts their finger on his X I huff up without even thinking about it.
*I'll bill you for that bit of wisdom* hahahahahhhaa!
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East Wrote:I have never been affectionate with anyone in an intimate way until the guy I am with...he broke me down and unleashed it in me and eventually made me WANT to be affectionate and intimate.
I was one of those "you can fuck me and I can fuck you but don't ever fucking touch me" guys....being intimate with a guy was not something I wanted...too vulnerable.
it just takes some practice. 
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