Dating and Disclosure -Something unique about me

[meridannight]

Like I told in my post others kids when I was in Elementary school called me a Ninja turtle and I used to love it growing up. Because between 85 and 95 it was the prime for them.

I talk about ninja turtles because it's the best way to describes my hand. My hand is like that. If you have any other tips to describes my hand go for it.

When I see a person face to face they see my hand I don't have to describes it.
However, writing this post I couldn't fin the words to describe it and I smile thinking about the Ninja turtles who helped me having a good childhood with absolutely no bullying.

Also, I didn't want the post to look like i'm a victim in distress because I'm not. Just brings some humour. Life is way better when we can laugh at us and stop play the victim.

Hope I answered your question.

yeah, okay. i think i understand with the childhood detail added on.

it just seems weird at first. personally, i'd be turned off if a guy used such a phrasing/term when explaining it. maybe it's the fact that the subject matter seems serious to me, and to parallel it with such parodying subject matter at the same time just doesn't fit together right in my head... i wouldn't use such wording myself, but what do i know. not like i have experience with this.

i never claimed/thought you were a victim.

i don't know you and it's difficult to speculate what my reaction would be if i met a guy with this type of problem. it would depend a lot on the guy. there is one guy i know, who i like a lot. and i thought about whether i'd reject him if he had a hand like yours, and i wouldn't. it wouldn't matter to me. so, if i like the guy, i'll still like him, even like this.

hope that answers your original question.

[MountLogan]

yeah, okay. i think i understand with the childhood detail added on.

it just seems weird at first. personally, i'd be turned off if a guy used such a phrasing/term when explaining it. maybe it's the fact that the subject matter seems serious to me, and to parallel it with such parodying subject matter at the same time just doesn't fit together right in my head... i wouldn't use such wording myself, but what do i know. not like i have experience with this.

i never claimed/thought you were a victim.

i don't know you and it's difficult to speculate what my reaction would be if i met a guy with this type of problem. it would depend a lot on the guy. there is one guy i know, who i like a lot. and i thought about whether i'd reject him if he had a hand like yours, and i wouldn't. it wouldn't matter to me. so, if i like the guy, i'll still like him, even like this.

hope that answers your original question.

My original question was when should I tell the other person. I don't used such phrasing/term when explaining it in person particularly not on a date. It's one of the first time in my life I had to explain it in writing . Also I know you never claim/thought I was a victim just saying it was the intention being the way I wrote my post.

I agree with you it's difficult to speculate any reaction. From my experience, it's impressive at first and then no body notice after. I've also known peoples who took them two years to finally notice it lol lol

thanks for your input

[East]

This reminds me of one of my friends when I was younger.....

We hung out alot...went out to dinner and breakfast together quite frequently...went to movies...ran in the same circles and sat together at parties...nightclubs...even a few holidays were spent together....and it wasn't until years after knowing him that I noticed one night...VERY AWKWARD..that one of his hands was tiny and limp and just kinda hung at the end of his arm....

It is important to note at this point...I used to not have ANY filter and whatever I felt/thought came out of my mouth with no thought at all...very embarrassing trait to have...and I normally see what I feel meaning I don't pay attention to alot of physical stuff most other people do pay attention to...

...but I was mortified right after I blurted...I thought it was a "new thing"...it had been that way all his life and he never hid it...I just never noticed.... until that one moment when I did....

So my suggestion...if you have any friends like me...tell them before they embarrass themselves:redface:...but other than that...I am not sure it is important one way or the other. I would think if it bothered anyone then it would be a blessing to not have one of those people in your life.

I do understand about the disclosure...I tell people often when I think they may be in my life that I am "off in left field" because I will do things like help a spirit move along or talk to people after they have just died (and lots of other stuff I wont' mention)...and I don't hide it...and it can be disconcerting to people and I am definitely not open to arguing about it or trying to make anyone understand so I just tell them so they are prepared for it at some point LOL

[meridannight]

My original question was when should I tell the other person.

that would also depend on the person and the type of interaction you have with him. emotions tend to play into it. you might want to tell a guy, but fear might drag the process out. it depends on the guy and on the situation. there's no way to put a clock on this. you should tell when it feels the most natural to do so without it becoming an active process of you hiding it from the guy.

[Virge]

[SIZE="6"][COLOR="Red"]Also, I didn't want the post to look like i'm a victim in distress because I'm not. Just brings some humour. Life is way better when we can laugh at us and stop play the victim.
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THERE'S the right attitude Logan! You sound like me! I like springing it on strangers by surprise and just get all that out of the way, watch them blush and laugh... and always make up crazy stories about it. Kids in the neighborhood who have out of town guests bring their friends over for me to prank them with my hand... and it's always funny.