01-16-2015, 01:38 AM
Hi everyone,
I'm just after some advice please. I have recently been reconnected with a guy I dated for a short period 3 years ago, however at the time it didn't work due to issue on both sides. I'm not really a guy thats into dating and to be quite honest enjoy my own space time and if truth be told casual sex. So you could say I do play about BUT recently I have been looking at different areas of my life and wonder should I at least make an effort to go on a few dates. I turned 30 7 months ago and I tell myself that perhaps it's time to grow up and be more responsible and reevaluate what I do. In some ways I'm perhaps selfish with my time but I really do enjoy being on my own. I know circumstances change in life at the minute I have my family and friends around but people move on and perhaps I have given myself a false sense of security knowing I have family but that won't always be the case. So going back to the matter in hand this guy I dated 3 years ago has now been back in touch we speak almost very day and he is keen to go on a date again. He's focused and knows what he wants (not necessarily me) but his end goal is to settle down. We get on well it's just a big transition for me as I'm used to random hook ups, is it possible to go from being promiscuous to going to the other end of the scale and settling down? I don't want to mess this guy around and I'm confused. Please advise thank you
I'm just after some advice please. I have recently been reconnected with a guy I dated for a short period 3 years ago, however at the time it didn't work due to issue on both sides. I'm not really a guy thats into dating and to be quite honest enjoy my own space time and if truth be told casual sex. So you could say I do play about BUT recently I have been looking at different areas of my life and wonder should I at least make an effort to go on a few dates. I turned 30 7 months ago and I tell myself that perhaps it's time to grow up and be more responsible and reevaluate what I do. In some ways I'm perhaps selfish with my time but I really do enjoy being on my own. I know circumstances change in life at the minute I have my family and friends around but people move on and perhaps I have given myself a false sense of security knowing I have family but that won't always be the case. So going back to the matter in hand this guy I dated 3 years ago has now been back in touch we speak almost very day and he is keen to go on a date again. He's focused and knows what he wants (not necessarily me) but his end goal is to settle down. We get on well it's just a big transition for me as I'm used to random hook ups, is it possible to go from being promiscuous to going to the other end of the scale and settling down? I don't want to mess this guy around and I'm confused. Please advise thank you