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01-17-2015, 07:49 AM

East Wrote:Long story...don't want to go into it.

I actually am done with this guy and this topic. If he isn't a troll...I am wrong. I can live with it.

Anyway, just leave him with his story. I can play along with him if he's like that.

01-17-2015, 07:51 AM

lonley Wrote:Fine you win I hope that you all are happy I never did any thing wrong or too any of you !!! I get treated like I am a piece of garbage because my story was like some one somebody told before like I said before you can not tell me that nobody else has ever went threw this situation before . I hope you all feel better for being bullies !! I will let the mods settle this if they feel I need to leave then I will but not because you were a bunch of jerks!!

I want to believe you. After that timeline different, I still believe, don't know because I'm too naive or I'm a idiot but i just think that a good way to go.

01-17-2015, 10:45 AM

shirogane Wrote:I don'y think kids at 9 and 7 are understand what gay mean, you told your wife before them- not so smart. Of course you could told them, but wait for them to grow up a bit like 15 or 16

Mine did.

And the younger you tell them the better.

01-17-2015, 10:49 AM

reaper Wrote:HMMMM.....

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Why didn't I know about this place LAST month when I was in NYC LoL

01-17-2015, 11:32 AM

The lady doth protest too much. Skepticism is not treating people like garbage.

Skepticism is skepticism.

There are conventions of behavior. This post pattern defies them. Unconventional gets evaluated prima facie.

The remonstrations are par for the pattern observed previously, and no, it is not a Catch 22.

My GIF stated my view.

01-17-2015, 09:46 PM

Thanks OlderButWiser it is cool that your kids understood .I have no clue if mine did or not they looked at me like they did not .I have not tried to talk to them about it any more I am trying to deal with the wife right now and that is a major chore . She is kinda talking to me well threw the kids to me anyway I am still riding the sofa and she spends most of her day in the bedroom or the bathroom with the doors locked I have given up trying to talk to her . I am going to wait to see if she comes to me .I do not know what else to do .

Radbot42 · 01-17-2015, 11:33 PM

I hope everything works out eventually. I've been lurking on this topic, and hope your wife comes to terms with this. I hope your kids are cool with it, and I hope you can stay in touch with them.

01-17-2015, 11:33 PM

For me it's easy.
I am browsing these boards anyway and troll-post or not, I will do my best to help. Chances are it's a trollpost (and conflicting information is a bad sign) and chances are it's not.
Either way, I lose nothing by "falling" for it. Just like I gain nothing by giving the advice. So I'll pretend like every case is genuine.

A word of advice? Stop making the discussion about you being a troll or not being a troll. Once the suspicion is there, there's only one cure, which is you sticking with the forum for years and contributing with valuable posts on a regular basis.

I think it's good that you've come clean. Obviously you need to be separated, so you should start slowly working towards that. As for your children understanding, they won't. How could they? I don't think it's a better idea to tell them while they're in their teens. It will never be easy. I think it's a good thing for it to just always be that way and thus being perfectly natural. It'll be 10 years before they have a chance at understanding it.
What are you going to do now?

01-18-2015, 09:26 AM

Thank you for that helpful post Cuddly and Radbot42.
To give another update .Friday I called and made an appointment with a lgbt therapist in week so I will let you all know how that goes I have never been to one before and I am a little worried what might happen . My wife is still not talking to me she can be 10 feet away and tell one of the kids to tell me something even tho I can hear what she says .I still have not told her about the cheating I don't know when I should now since she is taking this other so hard . I guess I will try to talk to the kids again I know they are upset now that we are fighting just not sure if they understand why we are fighting .

01-18-2015, 12:17 PM

lonley Wrote:Thank you for that helpful post Cuddly and Radbot42.
To give another update .Friday I called and made an appointment with a lgbt therapist in week so I will let you all know how that goes I have never been to one before and I am a little worried what might happen . My wife is still not talking to me she can be 10 feet away and tell one of the kids to tell me something even tho I can hear what she says .I still have not told her about the cheating I don't know when I should now since she is taking this other so hard . I guess I will try to talk to the kids again I know they are upset now that we are fighting just not sure if they understand why we are fighting .

She needs time to come to terms with this. Give her that. Try not to fight. What are you fighting about? Why are you seeing a therapist?

I'm sure you understand her frustration, so roll with the punches and let her let it out.