Was I being naive
01-27-2015, 07:10 AM
Alright so this past weekend I went and visited Toronto. I met this guy that messaged me on jackd and we instently started getting along. We went out for dinner, went out for a walk, and hung out in my hotel all night watching Tennis and cuddled a little. (only cuddled!) I was looking to network because I will probably be moving to Toronto soon. This guy caught me off guard because he's not into the gay scene and he fits perfectly with what I like in a guy. He was so kind to me the whole time I was in Toronto, I actually spent the whole time with him. He seems to have his head put on right.
I don't know if I should have taken these a signs of flirting or just being playful. I have a belt that kind of hangs down sometimes and he was pulling at my belt a couple times playfully mentioning how he liked the rocker look of my belt. Then later on that night he playfully grabbed my but as I was laying on my stomach lol. Then the next morning when we were getting ready to go out, when I came out of the shower he had his shirt off. Now he never really hinted anything sexual so I thought maybe he was just comfortable with me. Maybe this was his way of flirting with me? lol. Either way I wasn't looking to hook up because it's not my thing. I am going through a growing phase in my life and the last thing I need is to complicate it with sex and attachment. The cuddling was nice though. I had my head on his chest and he he had his arms around me while we were watching tv...
I went to a mall in the suburbs afterwards that is my favorite mall in the world, and he actually decided to tag along with me. This is why I think he wasn't wanting to hook up with me that night, because I didnt hook up with him and yet he still wanted to hang out with me all day the next day. I appreciated it so much. He talked my ear off like crazy! Usually I am the one talking a lot, but I learned a lot from him over the weekend about self-assurance, self-love and knowing your comfort zone. It was like I was meant to meet him because I needed to hear all the things he had to say. I am really grateful that we got to hang out because I figured out that there are more than just drama queens in our wonderful gay community, and there are people with diverse interests. I know it's common sense but sometimes it's easy to forget when your involved in the stereotypical gay community.
I want to meet more guys like him and surround myself with like minded people!
I am just curious I guess, whether or not he was actually flirting with me and trying to hook up with me. I think he got a sense that I wasn't ready to hook up. He said I was a really nice guy... I hope that we can be friends when I move to Toronto! What do you guys think? Do you think he was wanting a hook up or just doing some friendly flirting ? or am I just overthinking all this? haha.
I don't know if I should have taken these a signs of flirting or just being playful. I have a belt that kind of hangs down sometimes and he was pulling at my belt a couple times playfully mentioning how he liked the rocker look of my belt. Then later on that night he playfully grabbed my but as I was laying on my stomach lol. Then the next morning when we were getting ready to go out, when I came out of the shower he had his shirt off. Now he never really hinted anything sexual so I thought maybe he was just comfortable with me. Maybe this was his way of flirting with me? lol. Either way I wasn't looking to hook up because it's not my thing. I am going through a growing phase in my life and the last thing I need is to complicate it with sex and attachment. The cuddling was nice though. I had my head on his chest and he he had his arms around me while we were watching tv...
I went to a mall in the suburbs afterwards that is my favorite mall in the world, and he actually decided to tag along with me. This is why I think he wasn't wanting to hook up with me that night, because I didnt hook up with him and yet he still wanted to hang out with me all day the next day. I appreciated it so much. He talked my ear off like crazy! Usually I am the one talking a lot, but I learned a lot from him over the weekend about self-assurance, self-love and knowing your comfort zone. It was like I was meant to meet him because I needed to hear all the things he had to say. I am really grateful that we got to hang out because I figured out that there are more than just drama queens in our wonderful gay community, and there are people with diverse interests. I know it's common sense but sometimes it's easy to forget when your involved in the stereotypical gay community.
I want to meet more guys like him and surround myself with like minded people!
I am just curious I guess, whether or not he was actually flirting with me and trying to hook up with me. I think he got a sense that I wasn't ready to hook up. He said I was a really nice guy... I hope that we can be friends when I move to Toronto! What do you guys think? Do you think he was wanting a hook up or just doing some friendly flirting ? or am I just overthinking all this? haha.
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I'm just not sure whether or not to try to keep regular contact with him while I'm still in Montreal. Maybe I will just send him a text update when I have a date where I will be back in Toronto. 
Aries
