Is it me or is it him?
Capricorn
01-30-2015, 01:34 AM
Hello! I have some issues with my boyfriend and I decided to share them with you because in his opinion I'm a very dramatic person and obviously his friends agree with him, though only one knows me. On the other hand my family and friends think that his behaviours are unacceptable. As you can see I'm in doubt if it's me to overreact or him to exaggerate. Let me bring closer what do I have problems about:
1. He lives in Ireland and I live in Poland. I work here as an English and Italian teacher. I'm graduated and have some experience in teaching. He wanted me to move to Limerick where he currently lives. I know that my job prospects are not very big there but for him I was able to move. However, I can't stand his comments that my education and experience mean nothing in other European countries but in Limerick I can have a nice life but obviously I need to start from zero meaning to work in a restaurant. I told him that I wanted to send CVs to other countries and maybe begin as a hotel receptionist but I hate the way he discourages me, saying that I won't find any job or it will be very difficult.
2. When I visited him at Christmas he took me to his friends' house but the first thing that he did was to sit on the couch and talk to them in Portuguese. I was sitting there for two hours looking at the screen of my mobile phone and later, when we went out together, he was walking with them a few metres ahead. To my accusations that he was ingnoring me, he replied that I was dramatic because I was doing something on my mobile phone so he assumed that everything was fine.
3. Repeatedly he comes out with a conversation about my nationality. He believes that all Polish people in Ireland claim benefits and do nothing. The problem is that he's been on the dole since I know him (5 months) and now he wants to start another course that lasts 9 months and the Irish government pays him for attending it. Even though I work he told me that people from Mediterranean countries like him should hate Eastern Europeans because they take money for nothing.
4. When I came there at Christmas I wanted to make some Polish dishes. Apart from him there were three French flatmates that he barely knew. Anyway he asked me not to make anything with champignons because one of them didn't eat mushrooms. Then he told me that I should have made something normal, namely not Polish, because French people are very fussy. In the end they ate everything I made but my boyfriend threw away my soup in the presence of everyone, explaining later that it's normal to do it if he's not hungry and I'm just dramatic.
5. Before we had sex I asked him if he had any disease and he told me to be clean. Anyway I was pushing him to examine himself what he finally did. It turned out that he had syphilis and what he confessed me was that his last examination was 10 years ago and he told me to be clean because he didn't feel bad and that I should be happy that he doesn't have hiv.
So, I've already bought a ticket and the flight is in a week but I'm in doubt about going there. Tell me if I should stop thinking too much or I was right about making those dramas?
1. He lives in Ireland and I live in Poland. I work here as an English and Italian teacher. I'm graduated and have some experience in teaching. He wanted me to move to Limerick where he currently lives. I know that my job prospects are not very big there but for him I was able to move. However, I can't stand his comments that my education and experience mean nothing in other European countries but in Limerick I can have a nice life but obviously I need to start from zero meaning to work in a restaurant. I told him that I wanted to send CVs to other countries and maybe begin as a hotel receptionist but I hate the way he discourages me, saying that I won't find any job or it will be very difficult.
2. When I visited him at Christmas he took me to his friends' house but the first thing that he did was to sit on the couch and talk to them in Portuguese. I was sitting there for two hours looking at the screen of my mobile phone and later, when we went out together, he was walking with them a few metres ahead. To my accusations that he was ingnoring me, he replied that I was dramatic because I was doing something on my mobile phone so he assumed that everything was fine.
3. Repeatedly he comes out with a conversation about my nationality. He believes that all Polish people in Ireland claim benefits and do nothing. The problem is that he's been on the dole since I know him (5 months) and now he wants to start another course that lasts 9 months and the Irish government pays him for attending it. Even though I work he told me that people from Mediterranean countries like him should hate Eastern Europeans because they take money for nothing.
4. When I came there at Christmas I wanted to make some Polish dishes. Apart from him there were three French flatmates that he barely knew. Anyway he asked me not to make anything with champignons because one of them didn't eat mushrooms. Then he told me that I should have made something normal, namely not Polish, because French people are very fussy. In the end they ate everything I made but my boyfriend threw away my soup in the presence of everyone, explaining later that it's normal to do it if he's not hungry and I'm just dramatic.
5. Before we had sex I asked him if he had any disease and he told me to be clean. Anyway I was pushing him to examine himself what he finally did. It turned out that he had syphilis and what he confessed me was that his last examination was 10 years ago and he told me to be clean because he didn't feel bad and that I should be happy that he doesn't have hiv.
So, I've already bought a ticket and the flight is in a week but I'm in doubt about going there. Tell me if I should stop thinking too much or I was right about making those dramas?
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to GaySpeak. Hope you find a way to confront this new reality before you make a big mistake. You can always back out, can't you? Maybe your family are right.
Are you sure he's gay?
