That's awesome man. I'm glad it went that well for you.
I also came out late in life (40) and have told a handful of people. Like you, I started with the easy ones first. A gay aunt my age, my brother who I knew would not judge, a gay cousin who I was the first one she came out to, and my mom, who I knew would be accepting.
I did this weeks after I came out to myself.
Since then the momentum has stopped. I still have to tell my stepfather and my best friend. These will be more difficult for me. I know they will accept it and me, but I also know they won't "like" it.
I have a bf now so I'll have to do it really soon. I'm going away with him on a short vacation in 2 weeks, and when my family goes to LBI in the summer I will want him with me. This means I have to tell my entire family....my uncles and my grandfather.
I know they will all accept it, but it's not a fun thing to bring up. I'm a private person in some ways even though I've done some crazy things.
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That's pretty awesome. And you had a plan! I've pretty much been wandering around blurting it out to anyone who'd listen...Anyway, good for you!!
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I had set a goal of reaching out to at least two people a day. I don't make it a dramatic thing, but rather mention it in the flow of conversation. I tend to tell them that I'm cutting back on be involved in town politics, going to the gym on a regular basis, coming out of the closet, and eating healthy. Sometimes it takes them a few seconds to realize what I've said, so I just continue on stating that I've lost 25 pounds.
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When it comes to coming out, the only ones who NEED to know are you, anyone with whom you are dating, and those in your support structure ( typically close family). The others don't need to know. If you start walking down main st holding hands with a guy, they will figure it out. ;-).
It is fun to work it into a conversation though. :-)
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