03-01-2015, 01:46 AM
This isn't so much a "need advice" because I think I have made up my mind to do nothing, but I'm curious what others would do. I'm only making it anonymous out of the very unlikely chance that someone would read it and figure out where/who I'm talking about. Who I am is kind of irrelevant to the story anyway.
Someone started working on my floor, in another department last year. A lot nicer than most of the people in that group. Recently we were assigned to work on something together, and thus spend more time in conversation (pretty much always on the phone, not in person).
But I was thinking about his name, and why it sounded so familiar. I did a little digging and I am about 90% sure we went out a few times about 20 years ago, when we were both in our 20s. Now I feel like an idiot because I not only didn't recognize him (20 years is a long time), but also called him by the wrong first name a few times when we first met. I got it in my head that he was named something else, which he was good-natured about but if he remembered me, he must have thought i was an ass.
It did not work out between me and the guy I think he is, because he was extremely closeted, and told me if I was ever going to meet his family I would have to be able to recite a whole back story he invented about how we met, etc. I wasn't really comfortable with that, and we parted ways on a friendly enough basis.
Where we work is not super progressive so there is no way I'd confront him about it, in case I am wrong (although five minutes of online sleuthing indicates almost beyond a doubt that its the same person). I interested in any kind of rekindling, and I think he might be married to a woman, so maybe guys were an experiment he has left behind. Thus I am probably going to leave this in the past unless he decides to say something to me about it, but it made the week interesting anyway.
If you were in this position, would you say anything?
Someone started working on my floor, in another department last year. A lot nicer than most of the people in that group. Recently we were assigned to work on something together, and thus spend more time in conversation (pretty much always on the phone, not in person).
But I was thinking about his name, and why it sounded so familiar. I did a little digging and I am about 90% sure we went out a few times about 20 years ago, when we were both in our 20s. Now I feel like an idiot because I not only didn't recognize him (20 years is a long time), but also called him by the wrong first name a few times when we first met. I got it in my head that he was named something else, which he was good-natured about but if he remembered me, he must have thought i was an ass.
It did not work out between me and the guy I think he is, because he was extremely closeted, and told me if I was ever going to meet his family I would have to be able to recite a whole back story he invented about how we met, etc. I wasn't really comfortable with that, and we parted ways on a friendly enough basis.
Where we work is not super progressive so there is no way I'd confront him about it, in case I am wrong (although five minutes of online sleuthing indicates almost beyond a doubt that its the same person). I interested in any kind of rekindling, and I think he might be married to a woman, so maybe guys were an experiment he has left behind. Thus I am probably going to leave this in the past unless he decides to say something to me about it, but it made the week interesting anyway.
If you were in this position, would you say anything?