Am i Gay?

[thebusinessboy]

What would a counsellor do? would it cost a lot?

[MikeW]

What would a counsellor do? would it cost a lot?

Well a councilor might help you understand yourself better. You've come here to a forum of total strangers and asked us "am I gay" … and of course we can't really answer that question for you.

I can tell you that feelings about sex do change as we mature. Just how that happens isn't clear to me but I've observed it in myself and others. Its also partly situational. I mean, what you feel when you're jerking off to porn may be quite different from what you'd feel sharing sex with a partner. Even more so in a relationship.

The bottom line, I suppose is, what do you want? Can you accept that, whatever it is, and let yourself have it without guilt or shame?

[TwisttheLeaf]

I would say you're probably either gay or bisexual.

Either way? I agree with MikeW about finding yourself a councellor/therapist to talk to. I don't know about in the UK, but in the US we have community sponsored mental health services in many communities. Maybe you could look into something like that.

Regardless, you need to find a way to accept that it's okay to be attracted to men. It's okay to want to have sex, to jerk off, to cum. These are natural biological urges (including your urge towards men). There is nothing wrong with you, and nothing wrong with wanting sex. There's nothing wrong with being sexually attracted to men, either.

A gay-friendly therapist can help you get to that point, to accept these things. You should really look into contacting one.

[Rareboy]

Hey relax.

Embrace the fact that you are attracted to guys.

Stop feeling guilty. I know that this might be a glib thing to say...but I never felt guilty even from the time I was 13. I felt special. Maybe because I read the right books at that time and learned that there was nothing to feel guilty about.

[thebusinessboy]

Well a councilor might help you understand yourself better. You've come here to a forum of total strangers and asked us "am I gay" … and of course we can't really answer that question for you.

I can tell you that feelings about sex do change as we mature. Just how that happens isn't clear to me but I've observed it in myself and others. Its also partly situational. I mean, what you feel when you're jerking off to porn may be quite different from what you'd feel sharing sex with a partner. Even more so in a relationship.

The bottom line, I suppose is, what do you want? Can you accept that, whatever it is, and let yourself have it without guilt or shame?

Ive had sexual experiences with guys, and during I loved it, it was exciting and intense, as ive got older ive gradually watched more and more gay porn, like I said in my first post I am even camming with guys now occasionally, its like when im masterbating im into guys and afterwards im not, Someone mentioned religious beliefs but im not religious at all and there has been no one who is gay in my family at all ever, well that's not come out as gay at all